Breaking Free from Feeling STUCK

Breaking Free: How to Move Past Feeling Stuck (the big taboo)

Being stuck—nobody likes to talk about it or admit it, and it’s not the first thing you want to share with friends, family or the world. Even the word itself pulls on a string. But let’s be real—no matter how good life looks on the outside, there’s nothing quite as frustrating as feeling like you’re spinning your wheels. It’s that sense of going in circles, burning the candle at both ends, and yet, things still aren’t changing. You wonder: What am I doing wrong? Why isn’t this working? Yes, life and entrepreneurship are quite a journey!

And so, we do what we’ve been taught—push harder, try new strategies, work longer hours. Guilty! But despite all these efforts, the results barely budge. It’s exhausting, and it’s discouraging.

Lessons I learned: What most people don’t realize is that the external world—the results we see in our business, relationships, and personal lives—is merely a reflection of what’s happening internally. No matter how many actions we take on the outside, if we don’t change the internal programming that created our current circumstances, we’ll keep reproducing the same patterns. It's like trying to change the reflection you see in the mirror without changing the original.

See, I wish I had learned this much sooner in life. But circumstance, results and situations we observe in our current lives and business are the result of what's going on in our subconscious mind. This program is a mix of beliefs, habits, habitual feelings and thoughts that controls everything we think, do and attract. We are indeed energy and we are magnets all day long. That's why sometimes it feels like some people are just lucky and others keep attracting one bad break after the other. It's not luck or bad luck, it's what's going on in our subconscious mind.

Why Do We Get Stuck? And we all do at some point, so no shaming here!

1. Subconscious Programming – Our beliefs, habits, and thoughts shape what we attract and how we act. If deep down we don’t believe we are worthy of success, love, or abundance, we’ll subconsciously sabotage opportunities that could bring them to us. We don’t even see the opportunities – it’s like we have blinders on. The type of ideas we get, the decisions we make, the actions we take, are all driven by this programming and keep on creating the same results over and over.

2. Fear – Even when we want better, a part of us clings to the familiar. The unknown feels scary and risky. The brain is wired to keep us in comfort, even if that “comfort” is the very thing holding us back. It’s that little monkey on our back creating doubts, talking us out of doing the things we need to do, reminding us of what we have to lose, worrying about mistakes, people’s opinions, etc…

3. Lack of Clarity – When we don’t have a clear, compelling vision for where we’re going, it’s easy to feel lost. Without a strong “why” and a clear goal that inspires us, we drift, second-guess ourselves, and struggle to take decisive action. Today, if you feel stuck, take the time to rethink everything instead of just going through the motions. What do you REALLY want? And I mean REALLY want - regardless of circumstances or whether it sounds crazy. Once you got that down (take the time to list everything that really gets you excited and inspired), ask yourself WHY? What’s the reason behind it? When you connect to your purpose, you are much more likely to do things that will set you free from your subconscious program and push through fear.

A few tips that helped me break free (along with mentorship because I needed help with some of those things ??)

?? Shift Internally First – Instead of trying to fix the external results, start by rewiring the beliefs, emotions, and thoughts that created them. Get clear on what you really want, visualize it, and affirm it daily.

?? Change the Self-Talk – If your inner dialogue is full of doubt, fear, or self-judgment, your results will reflect that. Speak to yourself with the same encouragement you would give a close friend.

?? Take Small, Aligned Actions – The breakthrough doesn’t come from doing more, but from doing the right things with the right mindset. Shift your focus to actions that move the needle—those that stretch you beyond your comfort zone and do it with the mindset aligned to your goal (not one full of doubts for example or a failure attitude).

?? Surround Yourself with Growth-Minded People – Who you surround yourself with matters. Find a mastermind group, a mentor, or a community that will challenge you, hold you accountable, and help you see beyond your own blind spots.

?? Let Go of the “How” – Sometimes, the biggest breakthroughs happen when we stop overanalyzing how everything is going to work out and trust that when we take the right steps, the path will unfold.

The Truth About Being Stuck

Being stuck isn’t a sign that you’re failing—it’s a sign that you’re ready for an upgrade. Don’t let it define you. Use it as a moment to pause, reflect, and re-align. Your next breakthrough isn’t in some complicated strategy or working even harder. It’s in the inner shift that will change everything on the outside.

You’ve got this. ???

What’s one area in your life or business where you feel stuck? Drop a comment below on what you plan to try to implement or what you’ve tried — I’d love to hear your thoughts!

For personal guidance, mastermind options or mentorship, reach out to Lu at [email protected]

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Lu Tandazo is a personal success coaching entrepreneurs to success in life and business

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