Breaking Free from the Approval-Seeking Cycle: A Guide to Self-Approval

In today's social media-driven world, it's easy to get caught up in seeking the approval of others. We constantly compare ourselves to others and measure our self-worth based on the number of likes, followers, and comments we receive. However, seeking external validation can be a slippery slope and can lead to feelings of insecurity and self-doubt. It's time to shift our focus from the approval of others to the approval of ourselves. Here are some tips on how to care less about everyone's approval of you and more about the approval of yourself.

1.     Recognize that everyone has different opinions and preferences.

It's important to remember that everyone has different tastes, preferences, and opinions. What one person likes, another may not, and that's perfectly okay. Don't take it personally if someone doesn't approve of you or your choices. Instead, focus on what you believe is important and what makes you happy.

2.     Identify your values and priorities.

To be able to approve of yourself, you first need to know what your values and priorities are. Take some time to reflect on what matters most to you and what you want to achieve in life. This will help you make decisions that align with your values, rather than seeking validation from others.

3.     Practice self-compassion.

It's easy to be hard on ourselves when we don't receive the approval we desire. However, it's important to practice self-compassion and treat ourselves with kindness and understanding. Be gentle with yourself and remember that it's okay to make mistakes or have flaws.

4.     Surround yourself with supportive people.

Having a support system of people who genuinely care about you can help you build self-confidence and feel more secure in yourself. Surround yourself with friends and family who uplift you and encourage you to be your best self.

5.     Celebrate your accomplishments.

Take time to celebrate your achievements, no matter how big or small they may be. Acknowledge the hard work and effort you put into reaching your goals, and be proud of yourself. This will help you build self-confidence and a sense of self-worth that comes from within

6.     Practice self-awareness.

To be able to approve of yourself, it's essential to practice self-awareness. This means being honest with yourself about your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Take time to reflect on your actions and how they align with your values and priorities. If you find yourself seeking approval from others, try to understand why you're doing so and what you can do to change this pattern.

7.     Learn to say no.

Learning to say no is an important aspect of caring less about the approval of others. Often, we say yes to things we don't want to do or don't have the capacity for, just to please others. However, this can lead to feelings of resentment and burnout. Learning to say no to things that don't align with your values or priorities can help you prioritize your own well-being and happiness.

8.     Embrace imperfection.

No one is perfect, and that's okay. Embrace your imperfections and see them as a part of what makes you unique. Rather than striving for perfection, focus on progress and growth. Celebrate your successes and learn from your mistakes.

9.     Avoid social comparison.

Social media can be a breeding ground for social comparison. We see other people's highlight reels and compare ourselves to them, often feeling inadequate or inferior. To care less about everyone's approval of you, try to limit your social media use or unfollow accounts that make you feel bad about yourself. Instead, focus on your own journey and progress.

10. Take care of yourself.

Self-care is essential for building self-confidence and approving of yourself. Take time to do things that make you feel good, whether it's exercising, meditating, or spending time with loved ones. Make your physical, emotional, and mental well-being a priority.

In conclusion, caring less about everyone's approval of you and more about the approval of yourself requires intentional effort and practice. By focusing on self-awareness, learning to say no, embracing imperfection, avoiding social comparison, and taking care of yourself, you can build a strong sense of self-confidence and self-worth that comes from within. Remember that you are worthy and deserving of love and approval, regardless of what anyone else thinks.