Break free from comparison and forge your unique career path

Comparing ourselves to others is a timeless human tendency, exacerbated by social media in recent years. While you know deep down that comparison is the thief of joy and that you must run your own race, it’s easy to fall into the trap of comparing your achievements, awards, and appointments to those of your peers.

You may find yourself spending excessive time scrolling through social media, obsessing over your peers' activities, connections, and accomplishments. While there’s value in gathering industry knowledge and inspiration, the primary motive often shifts to comparison and competition. This unhealthy focus can lead to feelings of inadequacy, dissatisfaction, and a loss of appreciation for your own journey.

Remember, the curated content you see on social media doesn’t reveal the full story. What others share may be a carefully selected highlight reel, potentially masking significant sacrifices and challenges. The career achievements of others may be exaggerated based on the lens you take to view them and the judgments you put on it.

You are an individual with your own unique set of circumstances. These circumstances form the foundation upon which you build your career. When we focus too much on external factors and the achievements of others, we risk neglecting our own unique strengths, interests, and values, and not building a career that compliment us. This readily leads to a lack of fulfilment in our careers.

Whilst not advocating that you turn a blind eye to all that’s happening around you; I am advocating that you do not allow what others are doing in their career drive and lead the decisions you make about your career.

Instead of comparing yourself to others, turn inwards and focus on your own internal compass - your values, interests, strengths, personal circumstances, and life priorities. By aligning your career choices with these, you can create a more fulfilling and sustainable career path.

Take your own base and build from there.

About the Author:

Buki Ishola is a former corporate leader turned Executive Coach. Buki, through her Elevate 'You' Coaching Programme supports senior-level professionals and executives to master the attributes that elevate their personal impact and effectiveness. For enquiries: Send a private message here or reach me at [email protected]

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