Break Free of the Fairy Tales

I didn’t do the assignment.

I felt resistance fused with anger, resentment, overwhelm, unfairness.

I was a student in a program to enhance my coaching skills and the overnight assignment was to work on our purpose statement.

That was the first time in one of these courses that I hadn’t done the homework. It was a strange experience for me to “refuse” (that’s what it felt like) to do it.

The next morning, through tears, I shared my experience. The teacher skillfully illustrated what was happening.

Bottom line: I was playing out – and caught in – an old fairy tale that I’d been immersed in as a child.

My psyche had been hijacked by the tale of a young woman being saved by a handsome prince.

At the time I was almost 40 years old and working in President Clinton’s administration.

Holy sh--! You have to be kidding me!

I had been feeling like I could not take on one more thing. If I declared a purpose, I would have to do something big with my life, I would lose myself, I wouldn’t get what I wanted.

I had succumbed to learned helplessness.

What does a damsel in distress do?

Wait for Prince Charming.

Yet, I was a powerful, dynamic, healthy, futurist woman.

I DID NOT WANT to be a woman who needed or wanted a Prince Charming.

And I wouldn’t want a Prince Charming that wanted to save a damsel! Yuck!

Many of us are caught up in fables and fairy tales that our common humanity has learned and shared with us at very young ages.

Then we play them out.

I offer this story because I know that each of us is magnificent, brilliant, imbued with incredible creativity, wisdom and possibility.

Yet many are stuck in old patterns, beliefs, cultural norms that aren’t “ours.”

This isn’t new-age hype.

This isn’t a nudge to do more personal or professional development.

I know when I was tasked to “write my purpose,” I couldn’t imagine “doing or being more” than I already was. What I heard was that I would need to work harder, exercise more, make something big happen. “If it’s to be, it’s up to me!”

I heard it in a Tony-Robbins-sort-of-way, and I was so very very done with that!

When I recognized the fairy tale trap I was in, I became free of the prison that I had to be a reflection of what society wanted.

I became free of the belief that there was someone “out there” who would tell me the right thing to do, the best way to be, what was right for me.?

It was a paradoxical experience.

An, “oh, gosh darn (or profanity that begins with an “f”) it’s up to me.”

And an experience of total freedom that I didn’t have to do or be “what a good person” would do or be.

It didn’t mean I had to become some extreme version of myself.

At that time, I still believed I was separate from you, from others, from Source, from nature, from Spirit.?

I still believed I needed to find and have a purpose as a separate self.

I still believed I was a limited, finite being and trying to be some meaningful person with some big purpose was much larger than I felt myself to be.

Now that I know that I am OneBeing, one with you, others, Source, nature and Spirit, I know that my purpose is to know who I truly am and to allow my life to be aligned with, reflect and express that knowing.

And in that understanding, I know that I am not limited and finite.

In fact, I – and you – are infinite, wise, brilliant beings.

I experience that now and experience the incredible aliveness, passion, magical and meaningful possibility of that. I don’t have to develop into some super-human being, which seems so tiring and filled with hard work.

I am actually an infinite form and expression of Source, imbued with all the qualities of Source. They’re already there. They’ve been percolating. They’re ready to be released! Bring on the creativity, learning, vibrancy of that!

That is MY experience. Someone else might experience this knowing and feel drawn to be still and silent.

It is just that this desire in me feels like more movement and fire.

The opportunity is for us all to know who we truly are and allow the full expression of Source to come through us: unlimited creativity, peace, joy, freedom and potential!

Imagine a world – and organizations – of people living like that!

Where can you begin?

Read one or all of these books:

·????? Being Aware of Being Aware, by Rupert Spira

·????? Liberation IS: The End of the Spiritual Path, by Salvadore Poe

·????? Beyond Illusion: Exploring the Six Illusions that Cause Our Mistaken Belief in a Separate Self, by Kat (Katrijn) van Oudheusden

And/or speak with me or join me for the complimentary workshop Thursday, November 30, 2023. (See comments below.)

If you want to explore living your life and/or leading your organization being the full and free expression of you, I am available to explore the various paths that can be helpful, whether working with me or not.

These are the ways I work:

·????? One-on-one guiding and coaching with a customized program that is unique to you.

·????? For organizations, group programs designed to meet your needs.

·????? With you and others in an ongoing group program that integrates theory and practice – the Wisdomary Leading Praxis.

Please message me or email me at [email protected] and we will schedule a time to talk.