Bracing up for Bad Times with your Fiancée/Wife

“We all have battles to fight. And it’s often in those battles that we are most alive: it’s on the frontlines of our lives that we earn wisdom, create joy, forge friendships, discover happiness, find love, and do purposeful work.” — Eric Greitens

Bracing up for the inevitable tough times within a relationship while relishing the good moments with your significant other is an art that requires finesse. Over the years of being with my fiancée and now wife, I have learned valuable lessons on how to fortify ourselves for the stormy days without succumbing to pessimism yet not losing sight of reality.

The cornerstone of weathering the rough patches starts with fostering open communication. It is the lifeblood of any relationship. No matter the intensity of the situation, ensuring that the channels of communication remain open is paramount. Granting each other space is important, but the flow of communication should never be stifled. My wife and I have found that even amidst disagreements or high emotions, a willingness to talk and listen has been instrumental in navigating through challenging times.

Recognizing that we are allies, not adversaries, has been transformative. Early in our marriage, I sometimes found myself inadvertently competing with my wife in certain aspects. It took her reminders for me to understand that we are a team, not rivals. Embracing this mindset significantly strengthened our bond. Understanding that our individual successes or setbacks are contributions to our collective journey transformed the dynamics of our marriage positively.

Maintaining an optimistic outlook is another crucial element. We have ingrained in ourselves the habit of seeking the silver lining in every dark cloud. My personal philosophy revolves around acknowledging that no matter how dire a situation seems, it could always be worse. This perspective has helped us remain grateful even during the most trying circumstances, fostering resilience and hope.

Equally important is not getting carried away during the highs or lows. Regardless of how blissful things become, staying grounded and connected to my partner remains non-negotiable. Likewise, when faced with adversity, we have learned the importance of sticking together, steadfast in our support for one another. Upholding this unity has been our strength, shielding us from external pressures and challenges.

Reflecting on our journey, there were moments of intense pressure, like the five-year wait for parental approval before our marriage. Yet, our commitment to each other never wavered. We encountered hurdles, including living on separate continents for two long years, but our unwavering bond held strong. These trials only fortified our connection, proving that when two individuals stand united, no obstacle is insurmountable.

As we celebrate nine solid years together, I am reminded that our ability to braze up for the inevitable storms while cherishing the calm waters stems from our unwavering commitment, open communication, shared perspective, optimism, and an unbreakable bond—a bond that has weathered distance, time, and challenges, emerging stronger than ever.

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