The Boyfriend Experience
Three methods we may learn wisdom:
First, by reflection, which is noblest;
Second, by imitation, which is easiest;
and third by experience, which is the bitterest.
In the beginning of a relationship always approach with caution.
If you have ever had long-time girlfriends take a moment to remember the very beginning of the relationship and how you courted her. Chances are that you we’re really calm and happy in life, you didn’t rush things had patience even if you were burning inside.
Either way, whether you remember or not, there was probably a bit of courting and patience if the girl was worth it and good looking.
When a man dates a woman and they are boyfriend and girlfriend it is like an equal partnership where they help each other out.
He is, in other words, ideal husband material - or, to put it differently, a whole lot more valuable to her as a long-term prospect than a simple fling.
In a healthy relationship no one person walks all over the other, the power is shifted back and fourth constantly keeping a balance between the sexes.
When that balance is thrown off, one person has the upper hand.
In relationships, loosing the upper hand for long periods of time might fly, but when it’s the beginning of a relationship that balance is more fragile than ever.
Loosing the upper hand can happen so quickly and you won’t even recognize it !
Now even though these events are drastically different in your woman’s life, you may not realize how similar they are for you to play.
You might be able to be loud and funny and win them over immediately, or you might offend them.
Look at it this way, the more you try and add to the conversation and be accepted.
At events like these, people will include you just because you are with a member of their crew.
If your woman leaves you alone, go and mingle casually so she sees you can handle being alone among her friends.
Casually means just bullshitting, keep the conversation simple not touching on any issues that might offend anyone.
Politics and religion are land mines waiting to happen, steer clear of those.
Be nice to everyone and smile. Even if you say five words the whole event, a smile can make anyone seem pleasant as well as encourage people to smile back and start conversations with you.
Become the Man that women want ---
When you are dating women they like to go out and do things, explore new places, and you should too. Instead of just pursuing women you have to pursue goals in life, having a great woman is just one of those goals. She needs to see that, and you need to show her.
Be passionate about what you like and defend your points with class, don’t cater to her emotional rollercoaster, be a man!
Manners and Class
It’s funny, I have read a lot of things about being a strong man and keeping healthy, but rarely do people talk about having manners and class.
You might look and smell good, but if you have no class you’re just a dressed up piece of pompous p…k.
To clarify, I am not talking about being nice; I am talking about being a gentleman. Not catering to a girl, but showing her respect as a woman. Not kissing her a.., but throwing in a compliment among the negs to balance your game out.
Let’s start with the basics:
Eating:
1. Wipe your mouth with a napkin between most bites, if you have facial hair this is a must!
2. If there are a lot of different forks and spoons (nicer restaurants) always start from the outside going in towards the plate for each course.
3. Always have the napkin on your lap, not the table
4. Have patience with the service even if your date does not
5. Look in to their eyes when talking to them, but do not stare at them when eating .
6. If you have to pick your nose or something, never do it at the table even if using a tissue – go to the bathroom.
7. Try to keep your hands relatively clean, and make efforts to not spill anything or stain your clothes .
8. Keep your conversation a low volume, don’t be that table!
9. Do not answer your cell phone at the table, leave the room if you really have to or just call them back later .
Here are a few bullet points on these types of events:
1. Dress for the event. If you are not sure, call the girl you are going with and ask her about it .
2. Keep conversations simple and pleasant .
3. Be comfortable waking around and hanging out without her, even if you have to fake it .
4. Take an interest in what other people are saying; this is a great way to seem comfortable.
Find someone who likes to talk a lot and ask them questions. She will probably come and rescue you if she sees you in a situation like this .
5. Smile and be confident! She invited you already...
On the date, be polite but act like you have not been won over yet.
Ask her questions about herself, quiz her, you want to question her to see if she worth dating you!
You have to be a man with standards who expects the woman you date. Just as they expect you too.
Be careful of getting into a situation where she is on the offense with you and knows everything about you and has already made up her mind.
Balance is Key! If you feel like you are on the defense or having to prove yourself from her questioning, you need to get on the offense without getting an attitude.
Taste every fruit of every tree in the garden at least once. It is an insult to creation not to experience it fully.
Your Toughts…..? Now you know some of the best ways to make your man chase you. If you have any tips feel free to share them with us.
Thank you.