Boundaries To Set- At Work, In Relationships, With Friends
How many times have you tried to control yourself when a friend oversteps, a family member overshares or when a work colleague who you just avoid doesn't get the signal?
There’s an answer to it all: boundaries.
We all have boundaries, but not many of us can express them well, particularly at work where we want to avoid drama as much as possible. Boundaries are like a muscle, the more you practice setting boundaries, the stronger you feel doing so.
Who is allowed in your personal space? Who can touch you or how close someone can stand or sit to you? It also includes what you choose to consume and if there is pressure like sharing a drink or a drag.
It might be annoying but remember you have the right to ask someone to stop.
This can be one of the hardest to maintain. It can include not being a part of other people’s emotional burdens and not engaging in triggering topics.
It can be awkward for you to say it to your close people but if they are draining you, you have to put it out kindly yet firmly that you don’t have the emotional capacity to deal with it.
Most apparent in the workplace, there might be times when you don’t like the tone or the way or what someone speaks to you.?
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Be clear and explicit about what is acceptable to you and what is not.?
It is important to set boundaries with ourselves too. How many of us do it? It is okay to have thoughts and ideas that differ from the rest and not agree with others.
These boundaries may be hard to maintain if you are a people pleaser, but understand it’s okay to be different and to say no at times.
A friend who is always late and keeps you waiting, a family member who just keeps calling until you pick up, a colleague who just wants you to help with their work first, or a client messaging you at wee hours.
Monitor how much time you give to others and if it is disturbing your work or schedule in any way.
These boundaries relate to how people treat your or behave around you. How much of a casual space have you allowed them to be in with you?
Setting any kind of boundary and maintaining them isn’t easy if you haven’t been in an environment where you see people see creating or respecting boundaries. Every living being has the right to their boundaries and so is respecting them.