Boundaries: A Key To Reclaiming Your Power

Many of us were raised to believe that we should prioritize others' needs over our own, often at the expense of our well-being. We were praised for being agreeable and accommodating, and taught that putting ourselves first is selfish. However, let’s consider that what’s truly selfish is giving from a place of lack, and that true generosity is giving from a place of overflow.

Have you ever found yourself giving from a sense of obligation, putting on a forced smile but feeling disconnected inside? It's an uncomfortable feeling, and often, the person you're trying to please feels it too. How can we be in a place of overflow if we’re constantly giving from a place of lack? We simply can’t. Yet, we keep giving even when it’s forced and when resentment brews inside of us.

So what are we gaining from this? Behind the scenes, what we gain from avoiding confrontation or preserving relationships may have served us well as children who were dependent on our parents. However, they no longer serve our adult selves, who need to stop burying our needs and confront them.

Living inauthentically comes at a cost, friends. When we perpetually sacrifice ourselves to keep the peace, we deny ourselves the opportunity to live authentically. It's a paradox: in our quest to keep the peace, we lose touch with our true selves.

Yet, when we're ready to step into our power, setting boundaries becomes non-negotiable. As the saying goes, "Life begins where fear ends." We fear boundaries because they're unfamiliar territory. Many of us didn't witness healthy boundary-setting growing up, so we're uncertain how to navigate them.

But as adults, we have the power to redefine our relationship with boundaries. They're not barriers; they're bridges to deeper connections—with ourselves and others. Setting boundaries is an act of self-love, a declaration that our needs matter. Every time we enforce a boundary, it’s like saying to ourselves: Don’t worry, I’ve got your back!

Here are some tips to guide you in setting boundaries:

• Set Intentions: Approach boundary-setting with the intention of improving your relationships, both with yourself and others.
• Identify Triggers: Reflect on moments that bring up hurt, anger, or resentment, and allow them to reveal where boundaries are needed.
• Start Small: Begin by setting small boundaries, such as limiting phone use during specific times or setting guidelines for work-related communication.
• Embrace Discomfort: Expect resistance, both from within yourself and from others. Remember, discomfort is a natural part of growth. Stand strong, you’ve got this!

Setting boundaries may feel daunting at first, but with practice, you can reclaim your power and cultivate healthier relationships.?

Share your boundary-setting experiences and beliefs below—let's start a conversation below!

Sending you so much love. ?

Daniela

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