Bonus Chapter: The Unshakable Self

For those who have downloaded my book "Midlife Revented, here is part of a bonus chapter.

I’ve faced moments when everything I built seemed to crumble. My health took a hit, my business suffered through the pandemic, and the vision I had worked so hard for seemed to be slipping away.

It was during those dark times that I had to confront the one thing that had been silently shaping my life: my sense of self-worth.

For years, I had unknowingly tied my value to external success—how much I achieved, how well I was perceived, and whether life seemed to be on an upward trajectory.

When circumstances changed, I felt like I was losing myself. But what if I told you that your self-worth isn’t something you need to chase? That, in fact, the very act of measuring your worth is what’s keeping you stuck?

The Hidden Trap of Measuring Self-Worth

We’re conditioned to see our value as something that fluctuates. A win makes us feel worthy. A failure drags us down. But when you really think about it, is your worth something that can be quantified?

Are you suddenly “less” because you faced hardship? Or are you simply you—unchanged at the core, regardless of life’s shifting tides?

For the longest time, I had unknowingly assigned my worth to what I could produce. But this kind of thinking only leads to exhaustion. The truth is, you are not a product of your accomplishments. You are not your setbacks.

The moment you detach your identity from these external markers, you set yourself free.

Breaking Free from the Illusion

I once believed that if I worked hard enough, I could finally reach a point where I felt enough. But every time I achieved something, that feeling of “not quite there yet” lingered.

It wasn’t until everything fell apart that I saw what had been hiding in plain sight: my worth had never been missing. It had simply been buried under years of conditioning.

What if you could fail and still feel completely intact? What if you could lose something you worked hard for and not feel like you lost yourself?

This shift changes everything. It allows you to take risks without fear. To rebuild without hesitation. To step into new chapters of your life without being weighed down by the past.

Rebirth: The New You

This is not about boosting self-esteem. It’s about transcending the need for it altogether. When you realise that your worth is not up for debate, you move through life with a quiet confidence.

You stop second-guessing. You stop seeking validation. And most importantly, you start living freely.

Your past struggles—whether they were health challenges, financial losses, or personal setbacks—do not define you. They were chapters but not the whole story.

The moment you decide to stop measuring your worth and simply be, you’ll experience a kind of freedom you never thought possible.

Affirmations for Your Transformation:

• My worth is not determined by my past or my achievements. I am whole just as I am.
• I release the need to measure my value. I am limitless.
• Every challenge I face is an opportunity to grow, not a reflection of my worth.

This is your rebirth. No more striving to prove yourself. No more waiting to feel “enough.” You already are. The only question that remains is—what will you do with this freedom?

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Cheers,

Gary

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