DARK LEADERSHIP

Here's the case!

There are many indicators, signs, causes and effects that depict true leadership. In that list the most effective and visible indicator is the ability to appreciate and take appreciation. This always is mistaken as a sign of good leadership, even though its nothing but a malignant cell of cancer eating up the very core, this culture of appreciation and ovation is probably the biggest deception we make in the name of leadership development. In reality it's nothing but a machine to suck the spirit out of the core of leadership and fills it with nothing but vanity. Hence these awesome looking, great speaking, charismatic, breathtaking, flamboyant, 'born to lead', natural talents, and highly skilled and oh yeah very MODEST leaders  succumb to the malnutrition of praise and acclamation fed to them over many years, and not so many followers who achieve perfection in ways of appreciating every single thing their leaders do. Even big names and famous leaders under any ordinary microscope turn out to have high traces of this virus. And due to the potency of this virus, their leadership core had died long before they became what they did. 

We have become so used to appreciation that we even dare to judge a man’s leadership potential through his ability to appreciate and applause, and even have the guts to call it a motivation technique. Not knowing that the first thing it does is to lower the scales of achievement and the last thing it does is to get people addicted to vanity, makes them selfish, harbors jealousy and sets them straight and fast on the path of true arrogance. Theories and theories of scholars are piling up just to perfect this technique of how to clap your hands to motivate people. EVENTHOUGH this was the first sign of a disease ridden leadership. Overtime people have gone so hungry for it that the only reason they are doing anything good for a company or a group is to get an applause. Even 60 year old veterans have become nothing more than dopamine addicts for praise and commendation. And it doesn’t stop here, naturally it becomes the fist rule for every green horn to follow and set the paradigm stronger still. 

 

Therapy!

Start training on people to get oblivious to praise and appreciation. First tame yourself, then bring it about in the culture. I urge you to start now before its too late to save the children. 
If we can get this base level instinct to be tamed, the wonders that people will do is beyond your mind can capture. Beware though since you would have to undermine the prevalent psychological impulse that drives you to think that it will lower the will of people and might kill their sense of achievement. Make sure you know that It won't.  In fact it will only heighten this sense.
People will move towards actual achievement and real success rather than chase petty applause and hollow words of appreciation.
Imagine a company where no one praises you for giving a bright idea. Sounds awful and dry doesn't it? But instead of stopping here, keep going, imagine what people would do in order to set new standards of appreciation and acknowledgement. Soon it will light up the brightest lights of genuine smiles of amazement upon real achievements.

That's our only exit out of this paradigm where leadership these days is hungry for a room full of applause rather than the minds full of awe. 

Its very tough! I know and I also know i am challenging the status quo right at its face. But its making me sick to look at how shallow we all have become and at the same time how deep we are into this crime!

Aftab ur Rehman Awan

Customer Care, Administration, Training & Development, Supply Chain, Fleet Management

8 年

Agreed

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Shahmir Sultan

In-search of Great Minds & Talents | Geo-Farming | Leadership Success Coach | Social Entrepreneur

8 年

I'd second that thought and besides, what's better; appreciation of this sort or self realisation which is the real fuel to innovation and drive to further success! Leaders are there to help people realise and let appreciate themselves over their own success and stop them at anything less. Leaders should produce leaders and not followers.

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Sahil Adeem

CEO Source Code | | Leadership Training || Consulting || Mentoring || Public speaking

8 年

Shahid Salim sb. Thank you for taking time to read and write on this. Here’s the problem, I am trying to state: Being open to appreciation might well be an ability. But making it a ‘rule!’ is definitely creating a permanent disability in our young ones. And we have gone to the distance that unless someone’s appreciated he just won't perform. And you can see that in every organization, company, and now it’s going down to even in schools. This just means that people are not performing for the purpose of their team or group, but for the sake of acknowledgement alone. And soon acknowledgment becomes a purpose. Again, let me reiterate that 'appreciation is not a bad thing, it actually is one of the most useful tool but this tool is designed to soften the heart, not strengthen the mind.' And that's exactly what we have started to expect and believe since we are expecting greater results from people by appreciating them the way we currently are. Thank you Sahil.

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good one Sahil

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