BLACK EYE STATUS

What will you do when life has hit you hard? Like- straight-up BLACK EYE… You are barely breathing out to whatever little peace you can find in the garbage of frustrations, anger, humiliation, helplessness and discomfort. Things are not going as per your plan. Or someone in social media is doing much better than you- maybe graining more “LIKES” or “FOLLOWERS” than you. Or Someone got a brand-new car and the car you driving is more heating than Delhi’s SUN.. :) Whatever is you are struggling with... How do you cope with your so-called miserable life you are perceiving to be… which I believe can be an outcome of comparisons, overthinking or straight up procrastination? Having said that you may having difficult circumstances indeed.. But you don’t know if someone will understand whatever you are going through. So here are my tried and tested ammunitions to fight..

1. This one can be little difficult to do; but I promise you it works. Here we go…- Start recording a selfie video about whatever you are feeling. Just consider your phone as another person whom you can talk out without any sugar quotes or filters. Be angry, upset or get hurt on the video. You need to record this first thing in the morning when you may find difficulty to get out of bed. Or whenever you feel unheard. Start recording every day and reflect on it afterwards. This will help you to detox your emotions as well as it helps you to come out of your comfort zone too.
2. Watch interviews and speeches of highly influential people. I always watch videos of Elon Musk – Coz 3 major failures hasn’t stopped this man to become the richest and the most successful entrepreneur of the world, Grant Cardone and Lilly Singh- aka Superwoman for feeling little light emotionally. See, the beauty of internet is that you can find anything to everything here- well except the lost pair of shoes LOL;
3. Find yourself- There are times when we don’t feel comfortable in our own skin; it’s like mentally and emotionally you want to be somewhere else- to be someone else. Your subconscious mind is constantly reminding you like- “bro this is not ME”. But the circumstances don’t “allow” you to change. You blame your family, partner, friends or your boss. Coz that’s simple for you to do. Whenever you blame someone else for the life you are living right now, you allow yourself to believe that THERE IS NOTHING IN YOUR POWER TO CHANGE. But let me tell you with straight poker face- How the hell can you give your “life’s remote” to someone else. It’s obvious that they’ll play the channel of their choice not yours. It’s YOUR LIFE (unfortunately we all have just one), take control of yourself and stop expecting others to solve your problems. This is no public restrooms where someone will flush your shit.. DO IT YOURSELF MATE.. FIND YOURSELF.
4. I don’t know if this is just me or someone else is also as crazy as I am. What happens is, whenever I am up around 4:30 or 5:00 in the morning, I feel like I have total control over myself. I feel exhilarated, motivated, I hustle hard, go out for a brisk walk or even for running and do my best to do whatever it takes to get hold of the situation again. But many times, when I wake up past 9:30 in the morning, I feel completely dull and I just let the day go by. So, whenever I face difficult circumstances or get hurt. I try my best to sleep early and wakeup around 5:00 in the morning. Oooh Now I realize the essence of the phrase Early to bed and early to rise- Makes men (women too) healthy, wealthy and wise.
5. Whenever we feel low and find difficult to get over our black eye phase, we cut corners and convince ourself that things are too difficult and too overwhelming to deal with. It’s better to shut down and sulk. But I am here to tell you to get back up. Life is what YOU make it to be. It’s your responsibility. Another best way to fight back is to prepare a list to people you don’t want to call (No EXs please- Also why are you still keeping their numbers in your phone). Coming back to what I was stating; Once you have a list of people who are important for you but you don’t find the correct energy to call them, you put yourself exactly out of your safe comfort zone and challenge yourself to speak to them spontaneously. This helps you to reduce destructive self-talk (coz obviously you want to present your best to the person on the other end of the call). This can also apply on meetings too.

So, there you go.. Have all these ammunitions to fight back the back-eye phase of your life. And if you have more ideas, then please share in the comments below so that I and people like me can use. Let’s get hurt constructively. Coz getting hurt is inevitable but it’s better to have an armour beforehand.

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