The biggest myth about strong independent women

Dear Miss Independent, it’s time to flip the game around. Instead of thinking that you don’t need anyone to help you, try this: I can do it myself, but it’s a lot more fun when someone else does it with me. Right?!

Needing someone doesn't mean you’ll be hopeless without them. Allow yourself to be vulnerable knowing that you’re strong enough to get out of it. Give relinquishing excessive independence in a relationship a try!

But as an independent woman, sometimes, dating can be quite the struggle. If you’re strong and independent, why would you need a man? Does this sound familiar: “I don’t need a guy to do anything for me”?

And when it seems like you’re just not meeting the right people Miss Independent, yes you, you might come to the conclusion that men are just afraid or can’t handle someone as awesome & independent as your are.

Though that may be true sometimes, you should also ask yourself how approachable you are to men in the first place. Chances are, if you’re unapproachable to men, you’re most likely also just as unapproachable to women.

Asking for help or showing a little bit of vulnerability sometimes does not make you any less independent. In fact, it shows that you’re humble enough to admit that you need other people.

God created men and women to be different, with unique roles, skills and responsibilities. These differences are NOT viewed as evidences of superiority or inferiority, but of specialization. In Islam, the family is of central importance. The man is responsible for the financial well being of the family while the woman contributes to the family’s physical, educational and emotional well being. This encourages cooperation rather than competition. By fulfilling their mutual responsibilities, strong families are created and hence strong societies. , Also, emotionally, neither men nor women live a happy life without one another.

It would be foolish to treat both genders the same and to ignore their differences. Islam teaches that men and women have complementary, yet different, roles because it is best suited to their nature.

Alpha women aren't exactly new, but they were once a rarer breed. Today they abound. There are several reasons why, but it’s in large part due to women having been groomed to be leaders rather than to be wives. Simply put, women have become too much like men. They’re too competitive. Too masculine. Too alpha , That may get them ahead at work. But when it comes to love, it will land them in a ditch , Every relationship requires a masculine and a feminine energy to thrive. If women want to find peace with men, they must find their feminine—that is where their real power lies. Being feminine isn’t about being beautiful or even about wearing high heels (although those things are nice). Being feminine is a state of mind. It’s an attitude.

In essence, being feminine means being nice. It means being soft instead of hard. And by “nice” I don’t mean you should become a mouse. (That’s the narrative the culture sells, but that doesn't make it true.) Men love women who are fun and feisty and who know their own mind! But they don’t want a woman who tells them what to do.

“A strong woman is awesome. But she must be inviting and be able to mesh into an actual relationship. Needing to dominate and overpower, that is a no go.”

Men are just so much simpler than women. Not simple as in dumb, as is often portrayed in the media. Simple in that they have far fewer needs than women do. What men want most of all is respect, companionship and sex ( The Ugly Truth ). If you supply these basics, your husband will do anything for you—slay the dragons, kill the beast, work three jobs, etc. Men will happily do this if, and only if, they are loved well in return.

It is when men are not loved well that problems arise. That is the nature of the male-female dance