The Big Lie About Your Past

I’ve always been told “you can’t change the past”. This well-intended comment is usually accompanied by advice about how to learn to deal with it. Or perhaps you were told “you can’t change your past, but you can decide your future”. This is great advice, but only when it’s true. Sometimes, moving forward really is that easy, and sometimes it is not. When it feels like it’s not that easy, we often shut down and blame ourselves for not being able to move on. We might decide that our past isn’t bad enough to worry about, we feel shame for even thinking about it. We compare ourselves to others who have much worse, more traumatic histories. So, we suffer through it, and try to convince ourselves we’re fine. We enjoy more wine than we should, we splurge on a luxury item or experience, and call it self-care. In reality we’re numbing the pain that we’ve become so used to, we don’t even think of it as pain anymore. It becomes easy to deny that there is a problem at all. After all, you can’t change the past, so learn to deal with it. See how easily we came full circle? We keep proving the big lie over and over again to ourselves.? Why do I say it’s a lie? Can we change our past?? Yes! I’ve done it many times for myself and with hundreds of clients. We all get in the time machine everyday anyway. We’re constantly going to our past to figure out how to stay safe, or to judge ourselves and our situations and other people. Since we go back to our old, stored memories and emotions anyway, why not change the past while we’re there?!

I learned this technique called RIM (Regenerating Images in Memory) created by Dr Deborah Sandella, which allows us to create a new felt experience that anchors in our nervous system like a real experience. I went on to experiment with sitting in a ten-day silent meditation, I tried holotropic breathwork, psychedelics like Ayahuasca, mushrooms, Kambo, and Bufo, which took me into the so-called non-ordinary states of consciousness and quite often into my past. What I learned with RIM, is that by leveraging our body awareness and inviting in spontaneous imagination, we can safely and easily dip beneath the logic and dissolve the root cause of issues, in an easy session, over the phone, with no drugs, and being totally in charge of our own experience and safety. So, I think it’s a lie to say you can’t change the past. In my TEDx Talk, I tell a couple stories of my past that I’ve changed.

Watch my full TEDx talk here. #changeyourpast, #traumahealing, #RIM, non-ordinarystates, #changemypast, #breathwork, #psychedelics