Beyond Roses: An Honest Conversation Between a Couple About Money Matters

Love is more than just candlelit dinners and sweet gestures. For the most part, it's also about managing your finances together—from splitting grocery bills to buying each other surprise presents.

Last Valentine's Day, my partner and I decided to break taboos and engage in honest conversations about our financial goals and other money matters. Who would've thought this simple activity would not just make us closer but also set us up for a happier future?

A simple sit-down conversation

After exchanging our special gifts and enjoying a fantastic day of fun, I asked my partner to take some time to sit down and discuss our finances.

We started with our goals, discussing dreams both big and small. From planning a dream vacation for next year to possibly securing another home, these conversations allowed us to align our aspirations and set a shared vision.

On the topic of values

We continued the conversation by exploring the topic of values. It was easier for us to respect our differences when we knew how each other handled money, whether we were savers or spenders. Instead of trying to change one another, we tried to strike a balance that represented our common ideals as well as our unique personalities, and yes, that includes our individual quirks.

What is left unsaid

Perhaps the most liberating part of our conversation was addressing the money matters often left unsaid. From unnecessary expenses to fears about the future were laid bare. Honesty became our currency, and trust was our greatest investment.

By shattering these taboos, we were able to embrace transparency and vulnerability while facing our financial realities. It allowed us to say, "I trust you with my dreams and my doubts." And in return, we found support, understanding, and the reassurance that, as a team, we could conquer anything.

Beyond roses and chocolates

My partner and I realised that the most precious gift was the foundation we were building—one that went beyond roses and chocolates. Honest and responsible conversations became our love language, making our connection stronger and our journey ahead more exciting.

I encourage you to unwrap the gift of honest financial conversations with your partner. After all, what better way to celebrate love than by facing the future hand-in-hand, financially empowered, and ready for anything that comes your way?

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Disclaimer

JCA Financial Advisory is an agency branch representing Manulife (Singapore) Pte. Ltd. The views and thoughts expressed in the post belong solely to us and not to Manulife (Singapore) Pte. Ltd. or any other group of individuals.