Beyond Limits: How Your Beliefs Shape Your Reality

“Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy. Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that disempowers them or one that can literally save their lives.” – Tony Robbins

I was very young when I started wondering why there is so much difference between people. I once believed that you had to be perfect to get what you wanted, but I’ve realized that very talented people who worked hard and strived often faced major failures, while less talented and more relaxed individuals achieved incredible successes.

Over time, I realized that even perfection is relative, depending on each person’s perception and desire. I then understood that you didn’t need to be perfect to get what you wanted. But what was the secret?

I discovered it many years later when I started studying the mind and human potential.

We all have unlimited potential, yet often our results do not reflect this. Why? Because limiting beliefs from our subconscious mind sabotage our efforts.

Our nature is to invest energy in what we believe will generate the results we seek. Therefore, when we believe something won’t work or that we won’t be able to achieve it, we self-sabotage by only being half-heartedly involved.

This leads to unsatisfactory results, which in turn bring insecurity and discouraging beliefs, reinforcing the limiting beliefs we already had. These might sound like: 'I never succeed,' 'I don’t deserve to be happy,' 'No one wants me,' 'I’m good for nothing,' etc. It’s a vicious circle that ends only when we decide to make a change to achieve the desired success

The cycle of success

The more beliefs we have that give us confidence in success, the more access we have to our potential, leading to great actions, which in turn lead to desired results. However, if we are not careful, the cycle of success can also work in reverse.

The formula looks like this:

POTENTIAL => ACTION => RESULTS => BELIEFS/CONFIDENCE.

Each word has its significance, but when we put them together to create the cycle of success, our understanding of the psychology of success becomes much deeper.

What is a belief?

A repeated thought becomes a belief, and the more you believe in it, the stronger the belief becomes. It embeds itself more deeply in your subconscious, guiding you automatically towards wanted or unwanted actions. It’s a feeling of certainty about what something means.

The challenge is that many of these beliefs were created unconsciously based on interpretations or perceptions of pleasant or painful experiences from our past. However, it is important to always remember that the past does not dictate the present, unless you are still living in the past. We can find experiences or actions to support almost any belief, but the key is to ensure we are aware of the beliefs we already have or are creating.

If your beliefs do not give you power and motivation to achieve what you want, then change them!

I am convinced that you don't want limiting beliefs to continue leading your life and preventing you from obtaining the things you desire. On the contrary, I believe you want to transform these beliefs into opportunities to create something great in your life, whether it’s a transformation within yourself, or related to a relationship, career, or family.

I’d like to share with you some of the most common limiting beliefs that we repeatedly say at a conscious and especially at a subconscious level. By anticipating or recognizing that you already have them and changing them, you will be able to create opportunities for success that many others, who are not aware, will miss.

I will start with a few beliefs related to HEALTH—valid also in other areas of life—because health is fundamental to creating fulfillment in life. We really need to manage our body: our health, energy, and vitality.

Unfortunately, even though we know how important health is for us, many people still succumb to the limiting beliefs below, preventing them from ever achieving a lifestyle change.

I have no willpower

Willpower is very important. We are not born with it, but we learn it over time. It is a 'muscle' of the mind that we can train, a tool that helps us achieve desired results. Overcome this belief and replace it with one that strengthens you, such as, 'If I can't, I MUST, and if I MUST, I can!'

I don't have time

Like the previous belief, this applies to other areas of life, not just health. Each of us has the same number of hours in a day. How do some people manage to accomplish so much while others don't? How do some seize every moment to do something while others constantly use the lack of time as an excuse not to achieve their goals?

For some people, exercising or doing sports is a MUST, while for others, it’s a should. The key is to turn your 'should' into a MUST.

Start by monitoring how you use your time. This will help you prioritize and schedule your activities appropriately. Begin each day with a well-defined plan and stick to it. Be determined about what you want to achieve that day. It's something you MUST do, not just 'should do.'

Effective time management is more about mind management, emotional state management, and prioritizing everything you do. It goes beyond simply organizing tasks and schedules.

Mindset, focus, and mental clarity are crucial for optimizing productivity and achieving goals. Additionally, maintaining a positive and balanced emotional state significantly enhances productivity and decision-making.

I don't understand

With this belief, it's no wonder many people don't even take action because they stop at these two words. A little effort could open up extraordinary opportunities for them."

It's too expensive

I have spoken with people who have changed their diet to a much healthier one, and they told me it is not more expensive - or if it exceeds the budget, it is only by a little. It is true that they use more time, but on the other hand, they gain the energy and vitality that the body needs. Their brains work much better, and as a result, their efficiency in everything increases.

This discussion focuses only on the present moment, but if we consider life as a whole, being healthy has an invaluable value.

Other common and very important limiting beliefs are related to love relationships, which are the most intimate connections we can have. Why? The love relationship between two people is where we "dance between desire and vulnerability".

In relationships, we find ourselves in our purest and truest form, where emotions play a major role. Therefore, we can be exposed to the most destructive limiting beliefs.

If you are already in a love relationship or looking for one, don't let negative beliefs threaten your potential for the love story you desire.

Here are some well-known beliefs. Remember that they can be hidden in the subconscious and created in past life moments that you no longer even remember.

I don't deserve love

This belief creates a lot of insecurity and is fatal for the relationship. Lack of security is not easy to overcome, especially as we have to overcome it both in ourselves and in the relationship.

Every person deserves to live the love or relationship they desire, but to find and keep love, you first need to overcome the false belief:

I am not worthy of love

Also, keep in mind that insecurity leads to jealousy and makes you question your partner's intentions, which can lead to the deterioration and loss of the relationship. You must embrace the power of positive intention, knowing that no matter what your partner says or does, their intention is a positive one. Cultivate a healthy relationship by creating new beliefs.

The good ones are already taken

We live - more than ever - in a world full of singles. Many people believe that attracting an ideal partner is some kind of modern myth, something that only happens in movies and not in real life.

Fed by this belief, some lose themselves in casual relationships that bring momentary pleasure but also sometimes a lot of disappointment because, when they are at their lowest, they have no one close. Others have even forgotten what a date looks like.

Finding someone suitable is possible, but it requires you to be real and honest with yourself, to truly know what you want, and to become the person you are looking for to attract them.

Decide what qualities you want the person you are looking for to have and not to have. Write them down! Be specific. And once you have done that, take action. Be accessible. Give chances. Stop being influenced by the belief that you might get hurt again.

When you believe it is possible to find your suitable match, you approach your search with a different energy, increasing your chances of success.

I am afraid of rejection

Science has shown that when you experience rejection, your heart rate drops significantly, your pupils dilate, and your body activates the general state of fight or flight.

However, it's important to recognize that rejection is often just your interpretation or perception.

Did that person truly reject you, or were they simply unavailable? Perhaps there's something happening with them that you're not aware of.

The key is to find an interpretation that empowers you, rather than one that takes your power away when you feel rejected.

Reframing your interpretation can bring power to you in all areas of life.

We are all "stories," and unfortunately, the narrative the world often offers us is limiting. We frequently hear people say, "Who am I to do or achieve X, Y, Z?" or "If you succeed, you were lucky."

All these narratives hinder progress and are based on personal interpretations, whether they stem from your own perceptions or those of others. Always remember, you possess the power to craft your own narrative precisely as you envision.

When you examine the stories of those who have achieved great success, you'll find that most of them started from scratch but maintained the belief that they could achieve what they desired.

?? The secret is to maintain your focus on what you truly want to create.

By being aware of your beliefs, you can craft a narrative that empowers and motivates you, giving you the strength and energy to persevere until you achieve the success you desire in life.

Sending love??

Irina

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Irina Kuhlmann is an International Executive Leadership Coach – Accredited Master Coach, with a unique blend of experience as a former senior executive and business owner in Denmark, backed by 13 years of expertise in professional coaching. She is devoted to helping business people, entrepreneurs, and high performance – achievers to regain their authenticity and live a happy and prosperous life in an ever-changing world.

“My path to coaching was sparked by a significant health challenge that temporarily paused my business career. During my recovery, alongside medical treatments, I dedicated several years to my personal transformation through the study and application of Neuroscience, NLP, Coaching, and Leadership. This profound and impactful learning journey ultimately transformed me into a successful Life Coach."

If you need guidance in your life journey or seek other transformations in your life, I'm here to support you as your coach. For more details and to reserve your coaching strategy session, visit: https://www.irinakuhlmann.com