Beyond the Dojo: Unlocking Potential by Understanding Your Team (Lessons from Cobra Kai)

If you're a Gen X kid like me, you probably remember the 'Karate Kid' saga. A young Daniel LaRusso moves to California, faces bullies from the Cobra Kai dojo (led by Johnny Lawrence), and finds an unlikely mentor in Mr. Miyagi. We saw Daniel as the underdog and Johnny as the villain.

Fast forward 30+ years to 'Cobra Kai.' We find Daniel a successful businessman, while Johnny is struggling, divorced, estranged from his son, and broke. The series gives us something the original movie didn't: Johnny's story. We see his struggles, his past, and the roots of his behavior. And suddenly, a character we once dismissed becomes relatable.

What does this have to do with leadership? Everything. 'Cobra Kai' illustrates a crucial truth: everyone has a story. Your team members bring their whole selves to work – their strengths, weaknesses, perspectives, and experiences, some visible, some hidden. Just as 'Cobra Kai' reveals Johnny's backstory, effective leadership requires us to look beyond surface-level interactions. We must strive to understand the experiences and perspectives that shape our team members.

Johnny's initial failure as a sensei stemmed from his inability to understand his students' individual needs. He applied a one-size-fits-all, harsh approach, which ultimately drove them away. This mirrors leaders who fail to adapt their style to their team. Conversely, Daniel's success as a mentor comes from his willingness to listen and guide, not just dictate. He recognizes the importance of balance and individual growth, similar to a leader who fosters a supportive and empowering environment.

Leadership requires patience and the willingness to learn more about the people you lead. The more you connect, the better you can help them reach their full potential. This isn't about being a therapist, but a leader who cares. It’s about building trust and creating a safe environment. Here are some practical steps:

• Schedule regular one-on-one meetings: Focus on genuine connection, not just task updates.
• Actively listen during team meetings: Encourage open communication and value diverse perspectives.
• Pay attention to nonverbal cues: Be mindful of individual communication styles.
• Create opportunities for informal interactions: Foster camaraderie through team lunches or social events.
• Discover and leverage strengths: People thrive when they are doing what they are good at.

Remember, understanding someone's story doesn't condone bad behavior. It's about understanding the 'why' to better guide and lead. Everyone has hidden potential and a desire to make a difference. At times, it requires a leader who cares to bring that out in them.

'Cobra Kai' is a story of redemption. Johnny Lawrence was able to create the life he wanted once he let go of the past and embraced the future. As the saying goes, 'It's hard to hate a man when you know his story.'

This week, schedule a one-on-one conversation with a team member and focus on listening. What can you learn about their aspirations and challenges? Make it a point to observe your team's interactions and identify any potential areas for improved communication or support.

By investing in understanding your people, you not only unlock their potential but also create a more fulfilling and successful team environment. Go beyond the surface, understand their stories, and watch your team flourish. Just like Johnny Lawrence, your team can achieve redemption and success given the right leadership.