Beware if you have hurt someone's heart

Imagine it was 4 am in the morning and you were in deep slumber, suddenly your phone vibrated and you woke up. You unlocked the phone; and it was a text message from your girlfriend. “I am breaking up with you and I wish you best of luck for your future endeavors, don't ever contact me again through calls or messages, its all over for us now, good bye”, it read. You are surprised to see it as both of you met exactly 6 hours before this text and made out and all. She did not mention anything about it. You, naturally, wanted to know the reason but she did not explain at that time. Then you waited for her reply for hours. At last, she replied me in the morning. “I can’t be with you because you do not have a future”, it stated. Brutal. you know that.

Honestly, you understood her rationale. Because you are a poor guy with no strong family background supporting you. She was obviously rich and she wanted to get richer. You get that. But If you are breaking up with someone, you must have the courage to say it on their face while you look into their eyes. Especially if you are the one who asked out the other person. It’s more like there’s a lump somewhere in your heart, weighing you down. The closer you are to the person you hurt, the heavier it gets. True, it depends on the character of the said someone as there are people who can hurt others easily, but I personally believe human have compassion in their heart. No matter how stone cold your heart is, hurting someone bounds to hurt you back all the same. The bad news is, if you let it be, it’ll going to haunt you for years and years.

I made a mistake once, a very big mistake. It cost me my best friend and since then, our relationship is never been the same. I thought I was doing it for her own good when the truth was, I did more damage than helping her. I didn’t know I was hurting her and when I knew, I was too afraid to apologize. I was scared that if I talked to her, I’d see how much she hated me. So I kept avoiding her until I moved out.

I thought I’d forget her and moved on. I thought time would heal but… no. I could see clearly the pain in her eyes when she confronted me as if it happened yesterday and the memory still repeating itself over and over. The guilt eats me up every single day since then. I couldn’t forgive myself for hurting her and for even thinking of forgetting her. And even now, more than six years later, I’m still not in peace with myself and my memory.

Hurting someone isn’t a good thing to do, for you and for the one you hurt, no matter how ‘big’ and ‘small’. And if you did it, accidentally or not, I suggest you to apologize right away and free yourself from the pain. Someone keeps saying “revenge is never the answer" then stop listening to them and look, if you really wanna hurt his feelings or make him pay, hurt the ones he loves, I prefer it mentally. take his possessions, gaslight him, anything he did to you just do it back. Go and slowly crush his self esteem until he feels so small he’s scared of you, frankly anything you do back to him will make him get a taste of his own medicine without realizing.

Moreover if you really want to make him feel like bottom of the pit, show him how worthless he is in every aspect of his life. Has he got that new job offer? Your reply is “ok and?” and then talk about yourself. Also if he can’t handle it, let him know how picky he his after and if he can’t realize how worthless he is, then let him know that maybe it doesn’t hurt now, but it twenty years when he’s sad and alone living a boring lonely life, it will sting like a bitch. Don' let him know that you always win, losing isn’t an option. if he hurts you, just remember to hurt him ten times worse.

Do I feel like a scum bag every time I see, hear, or talk to her. then I am not sure how anyone else feels that has ever done it but as for me I've done it a few times more than i like to admit. but it is what it is and it might not be nice or a good thing to do but there were reasons for it. It wont go into it now and on here but every one of them I can still see the hurt in there eyes. Also if you have actually done this you know that look and it sucks. if it did not make you feel bad for doing it or you enjoyed it then you need help. Remember its not a very good feeling to know that you have done something that they will not forget easily if ever. Cheers!