Beware of 'People' who want to be close to you

Sometimes we need to check on the people who seem to be close to you in your life, because it is likely they are not really the best ones to be near you. Because if they just want to be close to me because of who I am, it’s not gonna last long. If they are really interested in what I did for a living, then, yeah, we might become friends. The wannabes - well, they just piss me off. As do the ones that don’t know what we really do. Think we have an easy job? Then you pluck the baby out of the scalding water with burns over 90% of the body and then face down the boyfriend with a knife that dunked him in there. Or pick up the manhood that the guy clipped off himself with garden shears.

Please remind what an easy job I had. I do not want hero status, nor adulation, just respect for what I did. And did you absolutely fall in love with my way of speaking at a poetry slam? More please. Tell me what you liked and what you disliked, talk to me about my poetry, and my cadence. Critique my work critically and maybe I’ll even buy you a cup of coffee. I don’t think that someone needs to like me to enjoy spending time with me. There’s something to be said about art-based relationships.

I don’t need to be invested in a person to be emotionally invested in their work, and spending time with them is a simple enough way to expose myself to their work. Now, lying to them about my intentions is wrong, but so long as we both are aware that the relationship is based on the work we produce I’m more than fine with that kind of relationship. I think that there are pros and cons of this particular statement. There are some Pros: You are surrounded by people who recognize you on the basis of your achievements that you have word hard towards and who you are born into on which you had no control over, so they are less likely to judge you on the basis of your origin which helps in curbing social evils like racism…… So in a way its good for your development and also for the society

And some Con's too. The question that leads to the con's is that what if you stop doing what they like you to do or you change your interests will they still be with you? The answer to this question is subjective so I really can't comment But there always will be if and buts so if we look into the positive aspects, it is really great to have people like them around you! Basically it depends on the kind of person that one is. Introverted people tend to stay away form company and therefore they react differently to people being close to them, than extroverted people who derive energy from being close to other people. It all depends on what it is that one does that makes a person want to be close and certainly one would want to know their reason/ motif for wanting to be close. Cheers!