Betrayal-What it Is, What it Does
Dr. Debi Silber WBENC Certified WBE
Predictably healing shattered trust/betrayal that’s impacting you and your organization's work/health/relationships. Award winning speaker, bestselling author, founder of The PBT Institute and National Forgiveness Day.
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The pain of being stabbed in the back or worse yet, the heart, is very real and multi-dimensional. It impacts us?mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually.
Every relationship has rules- both spoken and unspoken. Over time, we come to believe that if we play by those rules, we will be safe, happy, and fulfilled.
When someone betrays us, they break those rules and it impacts us on every level.
The impact of betrayal is not only real and multifaceted, but also ranges in intensity based on how close you are to your betrayer. The more you trusted and depended on the person who betrayed you, the more intense the effects. For example, let’s take a child who is betrayed by a parent and your coworker who took the credit for your idea. Both are betrayals but there’s a different level of cleanup left in the wake of each experience.
In fact, there’s a collection of symptoms?(physical, mental and emotional) so common to betrayal it’s become known as?Post Betrayal Syndrome.
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People who have been betrayed can suffer from a wide range of emotional symptoms such as sadness, anger, stress, rejection, fear, irritability, depression and abandonment. They can also suffer from?physical and mental ailments as well.?In my PhD study on betrayal, I studied what holds us back, what helps us heal and what happens to us physically, mentally and emotionally when the people closest to us lie, cheat and deceive. A staggering percentage were found to suffer from low energy, extreme fatigue/exhaustion, digestive issues, weight issues and more. Add to that how common it is to also feel overwhelmed, shocked, unable to focus and concentrate.
According to the study,?betrayal also shatters our worldview. That’s our mental model, the rules that govern us
Healing from betrayal?can be scary and messy, which is why some people continue to stay stuck. The good news is that moving forward is not only possible, it’s predictable with the right strategies. You can not only rebuild your worldview
When you heal,?mentally, you’ll be able to focus on what you choose
Dr. Debi
Founder and CEO,?The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute