The best way for us to live is to know our RED FLAGS and to confront them with our values...

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“If we don't know our priorities and boundaries, we aren't living a healthy life!”

Pretty big statement, isn’t it? Almost confronting; at least to me.

?What are your thoughts? I read judgement. How about you?

Let’s take it a little further.?

Our communities are traditionally based on a strong foundation of values. For example, we all really love each other and look out for each other. It’s usually around a belief system that has values attached to those beliefs. Those beliefs come together to form a culture… or more plainly - ‘the way we do things around here’.

When members of a community, be it a workplace, a sporting group, a social group or any other group, have differing values, you can bet that things are not going to go smoothly. Immediately I think of a leader who has a ‘get it done at all costs’ value (hard work/delivering outcomes) and the team member/s who hold family time as their most important value.?Unless there is understanding and acceptance, I predict conflict for this leader and their team member/s.?Don’t you?

How do you know what your values are? What does it mean to live with values?

As a mentor, one of the activities I do early in our sessions together is to sort out the client’s top values and what behaviours demonstrate those values. Despite having heard numerous times over my lifetime about people who only put themselves first (and seen behaviour that reflects the notion), I’m yet to meet anyone who holds self-love / self-care as their most important value.

Do you know your values and the behaviours that support those values? It's easy to get lost in the chaos of day to day living and lose sight of what's important to you. It's our responsibility to know?

• ?what we value and what we are willing and unwilling to stand for;
• what boundaries we can put in place that support our values; and
• prioritise self-care as part of our highest values.

The best way for us to live is to know our RED FLAGS and to confront them with our values. What's a red flag that you might not be living with the values that are most important to you?

One of my red flags, as an example, is an environment that doesn’t support open dialogue. With 2 of my top 5 values being honesty and relationships, if I can’t have an open and honest, psychologically safe dialogue, I’m out of alignment with my values. Being out of alignment produces behaviours in me that are not particularly positive… for anyone.?Ring any bells for you? Have you seen this in your workplace?

I’ve recognised this, so what do I do? Great question. My (childhood, hmmm… ok childish adult) response was to push on anyway – they must accept me, mustn’t they??Then I learned that “they” (whoever “they” are) actually don’t. Recognising that it’s my values that are being challenged, allows me to develop responses and boundaries that serve me instead of destroying my reputation and relationships.

The way we show up to the world is a direct result of the consistency / alignment of our values, our boundaries and our environment. What can you learn from this article?

Would you like some help to figure out your values and how they are impacting your world? Contact me and let’s chat.