Best to wait until you’re older and more established before tying the knot.
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Best to wait until you’re older and more established before tying the knot.

Are your Relationship Expectations Realistic?

A lot of times, younger couples may not have given the time to think about what they really want in a partner long term.

Or, what they?think?they might want at a younger age isn’t necessarily what they want down the line.

Both men and women report initially being more satisfied in their marriage when their spouses were younger.

Though couples with an age gap start out more satisfied, their satisfaction drops more dramatically over time.

Common Reasons for Divorce

Up until around age 25, the human brain is still developing—specifically the?part of the brain?that is necessary in making informed decisions about the potential consequences of life choices like marriage.

Folks who wait until after 25 will have higher success rates in avoiding divorce than couples under 25.

So basically, even if you think you have it all figured out before a certain age including whether or not you want to get married.


Biology says it’s better to wait until your brain is more developed with the rational aspects that can inform those decisions easier.

If you?do?want to get married young, be sure to ask all the right questions.

Ideally, every couple should go to?couples therapy?before they get married, whether they have problems or not.

Premarital therapy is a fantastic resource, and when done right, it decreases the likelihood that a couple will divorce.

The therapist should be able to help you and your partner decode your values, identify any spots or places of potential concern or conflict, and help you communicate them in a timely and healthy way…before they get worse.

Young love is known for being incredibly romantic, but lasting?

Not so much.

Couples who get married at age 20 are 50 percent more likely to divorce than couples who wait until they’re 25, with 28 being the "sweet spot" when it comes to marriage.

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Thank you?…Professional support can help address underlying issues and improve communication.


Make your marriage a priority and invest time and effort into nurturing it.

Focus on constructive communication rather than confrontational arguments.

These steps are not exhaustive but can serve as a starting point for couples looking to strengthen their marriage and reduce the risk of divorce.

It’s also important to remember that every relationship is unique, and what works for one couple may not work for another.

Seeking professional advice tailored to your specific situation is often beneficial.

Do you want to add a word or two?

The readiness of younger couples to marry can vary greatly and is influenced by a multitude of factors, including to avoid divorce, couples can consider the following strategies:

Recognize that both partners contribute to the state of the marriage and accept responsibility for their action.

Being around couples who have strong and healthy relationships can positively influence your own.

Learn to find common ground and make concessions for the benefits of the relationships.

Maturity.

Many young couples discover that when they approach their early 20s, the attraction they once had during their teenage years starts to fade.

There is no genuine solution to salvage the connection if you don’t want to be near your partner but don’t want to hurt their feelings either.

This change usually happens to one person in the relationship, leaving the other badly hurt after the split.

Younger people don’t have the knowledge to spot the potential warning signs of incompatibility that exist

Extreme highs and lows are normal if you seek marriage at a young age. Younger people lack the knowledge necessary to recognize possible compatibility red flags.

Your Comments …..

It’s paralyzing anxiety around whether to tell people at work. It’s questioning your own viability as a partner.

And in this particular case, it’s been guilt and anxiety around publishing this very essay.

Writing had always been the method through which I’d processed emotions and major life changes.

In my worst moments, wanting to be selfish has crossed over to feeling like a downright cruel person.

Life goes on. It always does. Goals, and personal circumstances

What are some signs of readiness for marriage?

How does cultural context affect the readiness to marry?

How does cultural context affect the readiness to marry?

Can you share any success stories of young couples who married early?


Getting divorced is not just a breakup with more paperwork; it’s feeling like a dislocated bone.

But if I can offer any takeaways from this experience, it’s that we?need?to talk about the hardest things in life.

If we can start to verbally confront the hardest things in life with each other, it might make it easier to confront those things in ourselves.

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Dayal Ram

Managing Director at DAYALIZE

6 个月

Modern couples don’t get married at as young of an age as they used to. Many people will wait until they are in their late 20s or 30s. In the past, marriage in the early 20s or even the teens was much more common. One reason that this practice has waned is because these young marriages are statistically unlikely to last. For instance, if someone gets married when they are 20 years old, their divorce odds are 50% higher than that if they had just put off marriage until they were 25.? There are a few different problems with getting married young that can lead to a divorce. For one thing, couples can drift apart. They are still going to grow, develop and change as people in the years to come. Brain development doesn’t even finish until around 25 years old. Some young couples will find that they are drifting apart as they change and become incompatible in their relationship.

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