The Benefits Of Being A Total Zero

"There are three types of people," astronaut Chris Hadfield told me, "-1, 0, and +1".
Chris Hadfield spent 166 days in space in the space station ISS.

While there he also sang "Space Oddity" and uploaded (or can you say "downloaded" in this case) the video to YouTube where it was viewed 25 million times.

When a business fails it feels like a -1. When a relationship fails, often it's because I've been a -1. Certainly stalking and begging and crying has made me a -1 many times.

When I clam up in my shell, refusing to take responsibility, afraid to return calls, afraid to admit responsibility, that's -1 behavior. When I think I'm a +1, often I'm a -1.

Even worse, even much worse, is when other people think you are a -1.

There's a saying, "it's none of my business what people think of me".

But sayings are fun to say and hard to live.

When people think I'm a -1 I have a tendency to add all of those people up. Sometimes that makes me a -1000.

Claudia says, "trust me, a 1000 people aren't thinking of you."

I said to her, "but what about the 1000 voices in my head. All shouting "BAD!""

Being a +1 is usually too difficult to me. I never know what I'm doing.

For instance, one time I was CEO of a company that was my idea. I was very good at raising money. We raised $30 million.

I had no idea how much money we made. What our costs were. I didn't even know what our product did. I had bought it with the money we raised.

I was so afraid to talk to people, I would get in early and lock the door behind me and not answer the door when people knocked.

Eventually they fired me as CEO. Then they fired me from the board. Then they took my shares away. I went from a "+1" to a "-1" very quickly.

It's good to be a zero sometimes. To learn and listen and help.

When I do a podcast I feel like a zero.

I ask people to come on my podcast because I want to learn something from them. How to be a better person. They are +1 people. I'd like to be like them. So I ask them questions.

Here are the qualities of a zero.

– LISTEN to what people tell you. Maybe they experienced something you have never experienced.

Our brain can curate the experiences of others so maybe it can help us live our own lives better.

– OBSERVE what people do.

We have what are called "mirror neurons". If I think I'm a +1 in "firing a gun" I might shoot myself and kill myself.

If I watch someone over and over firing a gun then my mirror neurons kick in and I might be able to do it myself if asked.

Although I hope nobody asks me.

– HUMILITY.

Some people are great people. They are kind. They are humble. They are productive. They are competent. They get things done. Then they get AMAZING things done.

When you compare, you despair. When you are humble, you learn. When you get curious, you get better.

How did they get this way? Oh! They read some books. They wrote some books. They had some ideas. They worked hard every day for years. They saved some lives.

Ok. Now I learned from them. Maybe I can do some of that also. 1/10 of that if I'm lucky.

– CURIOSITY

A zero starts with:

• What are they doing?
• How are they doing it?
• How can I help?
• How can I get better?
• How can I be competent. Then build trust? Then build excellence?

– THEMES INSTEAD OF GOALS

Chris Hadfield wanted to be an astronaut for 21 years before he became the commander of the International Space Station for 166 days. Sometimes he had disappointments along the way.

"If I had only focused on big successes," he said, "then I would be disappointed most of the time. You have to focus on the small successes and make sure to celebrate them."

He had a theme of being competent. Of helping the astronaut program. Of being an astronaut. Of working towards the common goals of a program he believed in. He achieved many many small successes that way.

And then he sang "Space Oddity" while circling the Earth 2600 times in a row on a 92 million mile trip he took.

Here's the video. Watch it.

People tend to think they are meant for something BIG in their lives. I understand that. But to get to BIG you have to focus on today.

I have to keep quoting Chris. "Continually investing in the success of others is what will eventually lead to success for yourself."

– RESPECT

One person can lead a company. But it takes thousands of employees, customers, investors, fans, etc to really create a success.

A good follower observes the leader, trusts his suggestions, and then ties his own success to the success of the company.

When I worked at HBO I only started to feel like I was accomplishing something when my language changed from "they" (referring to HBO) to "we".

I was a zero there. But I watched all of their shows, learned enough of their vision, learned their history, followed the lead of their executives, until I could make my own contribution.

My contribution was big enough that other companies started to approach me and ask me if I could help them also.

So I started my first company. I haven't had a job since.

– NO ENTITLEMENT

I admit, sometimes I get angry feeling like a zero. I want to be a +1 all the time, at everything I do.

I get competitive. I want to be the best at this, or the best at that. RIGHT NOW.?But one thing I always know, feeling entitled to anything will automatically put a ceiling on what you get out of life.

Do you know someone who is feeling entitled? Is he angry most of the time??Entitled people are the ones who later say, "I should've been X" and they are bitter and then life is over.

Entitlement. Ceiling...Entitlement. Ceiling. I have to remind myself of that all the time.?A +1 combined with entitlement can easily make you a -1 within seconds.

It's important to realize that what's most important is paying attention to the things that are not important.

– DON'T BE DISAPPOINTED

One time Chris Hadfield had a serious setback when France gave away his slot for their test pilot program to another person for political reasons.

He was disappointed: "I'm not going to become an astronaut". He heard Air Canada was hiring pilots. He considered taking a job there.

His wife, Helene, said, "You don't really want to be a pilot. You wouldn't be happy and then I wouldn't be happy". Don't give up on being an astronaut - I can't let you do that to yourself or to us."

She said that and he didn't go for the job and he ended up in outer space.?Sometimes 0 + 0 = +1.

This isn't a story about math. Or being a success. Or being an astronaut. Or achieving all your dreams.

This is a love story.

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About James:

James Altucher is a successful entrepreneur, chess master, investor and best seller author. He has started and run more than 20 companies, and sold several of those businesses for large exits.
 
He is currently writing a brand new newsletter, The Altucher Report, which focuses on the latest trends in the market.
 
He has also run venture capital funds, hedge funds, angel funds, and currently sits on the boards of several companies.
 
His podcasts ("The James Altucher Show" and "Ask Altucher") have been downloaded over 10 million times in less than a year.
 
He is the author of 15 books including two Wall Street Journal Best Sellers "Choose Yourself" and "The Power Of No" which he co-authored with Claudia Azula Altucher.
 
His writing appears in major national media outlets (Wall Street Journal, ABC, Financial Times, Tech Crunch, Forbes, CNBC, etc).
 
His blog has attracted more than 10 million readers since its launch in 2010.

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