Belief Coaching challenges your 'lies' to change Behavior

Your belief system drives your behavior. When you believe a 'lie' or false belief your behavior will never change. (Example - "I can drink, drug, eat, sex, spend, gamble... all I want without any consequences"). Almost all bad habits flow out of false beliefs.

If you want to experience lasting change you need to challenge your beliefs.

This list of 99 serious questions represents only a sample of areas where you can improve your life by confronting false beliefs. It is not meant to be inclusive, but rather intended to start a conversation about belief based change. Getting honest about your values will point out areas that need change, and show the need for some outside help from a trusted Coach. Major change requires a major shift in thinking so as you assess these areas take notes to bring them up with your Coach, who can challenge your false assumptions and call you out on inconsistencies between belief and behavior.

Want real change? Ask the hard questions.

Here are 99 to get you started.

PERSONAL-

Check what is NOT TRUE for you:

1. ___  I am satisfied and am living my life in a way that is true to my value system.

2. ___  All my personal relationships are nurturing and growing.

3. ___  I forgive quickly, easily and completely

4. ___  People who know me believe that I am a Christian.

5. ___  My job/career is not in conflict with my value system.

6. ___  I take time each day to study scriptures and for prayer.

7. ___  I know myself well and I like who I am.

8. ___  I communicate well (without damaging anyone), even when I'm angry.

9. ___  I have a supportive circle of family and friends who love me just as I am.

10. ___  I rarely feel overwhelmed, stressed out or frustrated.

11. ___  I know how to take care of myself, and do so.

12. ___  My finances are in good shape. I make enough money and don't overspend.

13. ___  My thought life is consistent with my values.

14. ___  I am able to accept myself as I am and others as they are.

15. ___  There is not anyone who has hurt me that I have not forgiven.

16. ___  I rarely find myself doing things that are not intentional.

17. ___  I am content with my life.

18. ___  There is nobody I need to apologize to.

19. ___  I seldom expect people I know to do the right thing.

20. ___  I can say "no" easily, without feeling guilty.

21. ___  I harbor no resentment about toxic religious people who appear to be hypocritical.

22. ___  I take time for myself, every day.

23. ___  People I love know, without question, how much I love them.

24. ___  I truly know the peace of God and feel deep joy inside.

25. ___  I believe God hears and answers prayer.

BUSINESS-

Check any of these that are TRUE for you:

26. ___ I dislike my present job/career.

27. ___ I don't make enough money to live.

28. ___ There is a conflict between my values and the demands of my job.

29. ___ I have trouble getting along with my colleagues

30. ___ My competitors don't play by the same rules that I do.

31. ___ I often feel caught up in the politics of my situation at work.

32. ___ I feel like I am on a dead end road with my present job.

33. ___ I want to make changes in my present career/job situation.

34. ___ I own a business and I want to increase profits.

35. ___ I have family members working in my business and major conflicts.

36. ___ I suffer a lot when I have to dismiss an employee.

37. ___ I try to be fair and honest, but it seems like the cheaters prosper.

38. ___ I make suggestions, and other people get the credit and the promotions.

39. ___ I feel embarrassed I have been downsized out of my job.

40. ___ I work with people who don't seem to like me.

41. ___ My business is making a lot of money, but staff turnover is high.

42. ___ I work harder than anyone else in my company.

43. ___ I feel unappreciated or taken for granted at work.

44. ___ I should make some upgrades at my business but I don't have time or money.

45. ___ More staff training would be good for business, but there is nobody to do that.

46. ___ My work area is always tidy so I can find things easily.

47. ___ Almost all my friends are business related.

48. ___ People I work with don't respect my values.

49. ___ I feel like I get pushed around a lot by people at work.

50. ___ The company I work for does not value it's people.

LEADERSHIP-

Check those items that are NOT TRUE for you.

51. ___ My leadership skills are often applauded by others.

52. ___ I attract people I want on my team, so manipulation is not necessary

53. ___ My team produces what I want, when I want it.

54. ___ People flood me with ideas and suggestions on how to improve operations.

55. ___ I am a forward thinking person, and never have to work with others who are not.

56. ___ I value each person on my team.

57. ___ I understand the difference between coaching team members and dictating.

58. ___ I don't care about buffing up my leadership skills.

59. ___ People who look to me for leadership are seldom disappointed.

60. ___ I can always find someone to talk to freely about challenging situations.

61. ___ I have plenty of time to enjoy my life and my family.

62. ___ I am very prayerful in my leadership.

63. ___ I never have trouble delegating tasks to others.

64. ___ I rarely get too involved with other people's personal problems.

65. ___ I seldom get upset when others want to make changes.

66. ___ I am comfortable being a role model for others, almost all the time.

67. ___ I never feel isolated, although I fiercely protect my privacy.

68. ___ I know, without question, that the Lord wants me in this leadership role.

69. ___ I really enjoy this leadership role.

70. ___ I make decisions quickly and easily.

71. ___ I never 'forget' to pray about issues that affect the lives of others.

72. ___ I easily depend upon others to provide me with accurate information.

73. ___ I can say 'no' easily.

74. ___ I never lose sight of the big picture.

COMMUNITY SERVICE -

Check those items that are NOT TRUE for you:

75. ___ I am volunteering exactly where my gifting makes the greatest difference.

76. ___ The community service outreach I am involved with is thriving.

77. ___ I see volunteering as an important part of my life.

78. ___ My family does not suffer because of the demands of my community service.

79. ___ My health does not suffer because of my community service.

80. ___ What I do to add more value to the community comes to me naturally.

81. ___ I get really excited when I see how our outreach is changing people's lives.

82. ___ I can easily detach from the problems of those we serve to prevent being manipulated.

83. ___ I rarely feel discouraged for more than a day or so.

84. ___ I enjoy quiet time alone in meditation daily.

85. ___ My energy level and enthusiasm to help others is a source of personal motivation.

86. ___ I am skilled at helping people work out conflicts in a compassionate manner.

87. ___ I feel spiritually in tune with the people I work with.

88. ___ I rarely feel isolated or lonely.

89. ___ I am not concerned people might look to me for help instead of looking to God.

90. ___ I can talk with people easily about boundaries.

91. ___ I am diligent in prayer for those in need.

92. ___ I am not ashamed to admit my weaknesses.

93. ___ I have plenty of time to do things I enjoy outside of work or volunteering.

94. ___ My lifestyle is consistent with my core values.

95. ___ The peace of God is evident in my life.

96. ___ I avoid behavior that would damage my reputation.

97. ___ I am not prone to judging others.

98. ___ I rarely struggle with 'walking my talk'.

99. ___ My life goal is to be more like Jesus, the Master Teacher.

Source: This list was originally developed by pioneer coach Judy Santos and modified by Dwight Bain for today's culture. This resource may be freely duplicated only in its entirety as a memorial to the life work of Dr. Santos as a co-founder in the field of Faith-based Coaching.