Being Wrong
It's great to know stuff - knowledge is power and the benefits of crystallized intelligence are many, but the reality is that the more you know, the more opportunities you have to be wrong.
I have a bit of a perverse relationship with knowing. I LOVE to be right - I'm right a lot (just ask my family they will tell you how often I tell them I'm right ?? ). When I'm really honest with myself I actually love being wrong more . I mean, I don't love being wrong, but learning from being wrong is much more fun. It's often when we are wrong that the biggest insights occur. It's also a lot more funny to be wrong than it is to be right, and it reinforces my belief that my life is a comedy.
A few things I know that I learned were wrong just this week
Each of these on their own are interesting, taken together it causes me to ask a different question - how much of the entire playbook on leadership development is built with the assumption that what works for men will also work for women.
Take a minute with that one - I'll wait.
This is a productive failure that finds me [reluctantly] quoting Annie Hall "everything our parents said was good is bad ". Everything we know needs a nuanced re-think and most importantly, more data . I suspect this goes well beyond leadership development.
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Amy wondered if I was wrong also about the discussion on self vs. other care this week. It's possible other care is more urgent and helpful for men but might be already an over invested area for women. Maybe we're projecting.
Maybe I'm wrong.
But I will say this - I'm very curious and I hope you are too. We all need to embrace being wrong more and use it to our advantage. One thing is true, we will likely get many chances to practice.
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7 个月Thank you Meg! I enjoyed this one. A great topic for a podcast. I see you running a podcast series for woman leaders, don’t you ??
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8 个月This is good. I also love reporting from qualitative research and having people disagree with it. I learn that my sampling needs improvement. I also end up having more people want to be interviewed to join my sample. #DoBetter #Growth
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8 个月Hi Meg Bear, thank you for posting this. I think about this a lot in the context of failure. What is it about losing (or being wrong) that can either fuel us and ignite our curiosity or push us into a hole of self doubt? I am competitive and I hate losing, but I love the process that comes after a failure. It's a eyes-wide-open chance to address areas of weakness and identify opportunities I may have missed. As for your question about leadership development and the research, it's an interesting topic. I think the outcomes from research would change if we widened the net of participants. We are certainly seeing that in the realm of athletics. For decades, the type of training for men was applied holistically to women. There are now studies coming out that take into account things like hormone changes, pre/post pregnancy and the variations in testosterone, etc. and the recommendations are quite different. Something to think about.
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8 个月Love you Meg and there is SO MUCH RIGHT in this blog. Yes - what works for men doesn’t work for women. Networking - works differently. Mentorship - different. Professionalism - different. Sherryanne Meyer, SHRM-SCP, HRIP add to this pleeeeeeze