Being a Stay at Home Mum

Something happened in a recent networking event with a bunch of lovely women that got me thinking.

They were really friendly and welcoming but my perception of them being successful, professional women put me into a bit of a spin of self-doubt which isn't very good for a Positive Change Coach, is it? So it got me thinking - where do those doubts come from?

Why do I still, at times, still feel that I am not good enough because I haven't had a glittering professional career. With lots of loving, supportive, nourishing self talk and using some of Louise Hay's beautiful awareness exercises, I realise that I am worthy because I exist - it really is as simple as that.

You see, when my youngest was born, I gave up work and boy was it a relief? Having just about managed with 2 children while working full-time (2 long days in the office and 3 from home without childcare - yep!), I just took a big sigh of relief. It was a revelation to not have to keep looking at my watch when we were at the park because I had to get back home to carry on with the project I was very behind with. Or I could spend time at a mum and baby group without worrying about answering a load of emails.

However, as with all things, there are always pluses and minuses! I had quite an identity crisis because I just didn't know who I was any more apart from a wife and a mother. I didn't like losing my independence; I felt that all the money decision making had been taken away from me.

I also noticed how other people treated me which was very interesting albeit, pretty upsetting. At one party we were at, I remember one woman just walking off as soon as I said I was a stay at home mum. I laugh about it now, of course but then. Wow! It bloody hurt.

After a few years, I started working part-time and then started to work for myself as a business mentor following plenty of training. But I think these feelings have stayed with me. So after the other morning, I decided to look at my thoughts and beliefs and ask if they were true. Of course, they're not true but they don't come from that time of being at home with my beautiful daughters, they come from feelings of inadequacies as a child that stayed in my subconscious.

What's even more interesting is that the women I have worked with in coaching and in my workshops who are, from the outside, highly successful have this feeling of emptiness and having to prove themselves over and over again. And of course, they also carry the guilt of not being with their children enough in their formative years.

That's why I'm so blessed to share Louise's work to help women strip back all those negative thoughts and beliefs that have been holding them in such a lonely place, and come to the understanding that they are always good enough and are worth all the love and success that's coming their way.

So, whether you've been at home with your kids for a while or you have built a successful career around your family, or didn't have children you are all wonderful, amazing women.

It's time to love yourself completely ????