"Being Kind" is a "State of Mind"
Kishore Ramkrishna Shintre
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It all started when I was a young kid staying in a lower middle class neighbourhood in small two room tenements with common water taps and washrooms which were shared by all the neighbours by queuing up. Since I was the only kid in the house without any siblings, the neighbour children became by best friends for everything study, play, learning hygiene and sharing things. My Dad used to be a very tough minded person and was a terror in the neighbourhood with his robust personality and a broad thick voice which sounded like Army commander. All the kids and their parents even were in awe of my father who also had a towering personality and we were too scared of his coming home. But he had a very 'kind' heart, it was almost an opposite to what he looked like and acted like.
On every festival we all used to celebrate together with all the neighbours sharing sweets and every dish prepared at home was tasted by all in small amounts. But Diwali used to be a real festival when my Dad used to allocate good amount of budget from his salary for buying gifts, sweets and fire crackers not only for the neighbourhood children but also for the children of our maids and servants. That is where my heart started showing me the first signs of kindness. It became a ritual or rather a habit to share things with people less economic background. I used to enjoy that feeling of gratitude which appeared from the innocent smiles of the kids when each of them received their pack of sweets and crackers to play in Diwali. My Dad always looked so different person when Diwali was celebrated he was very popular uncle for all the kids who used to adore him.
Kindness therefore is like a seed sown in our hearts and it then grows into a tree of kindness. I was lucky to have this seed of kindness was sown in my tiny heart with a philosophy that "by giving happiness to people our happiness grows multi fold". This was a #randomactofkindness which was practised in festival times. When I grew up it was then automatic that not only Diwali but also Christmas time we started distributing sweet boxes and gifts to the street children and were feeling so happy so see the cute smiles on their faces. That was the deep sense of gratitude we receive from their pleasant expression in their eyes. Me and my wife also inculcated this habit of kind acts into our children that by "giving to people our happiness grows multi fold". We started celebrating their birthdays at orphanages where poor boys and girls of their age resided without their own mom or dads and my children got to know how to celebrate their birthdays with the kids by giving them gifts and cutting cakes at the orphanages and sharing our joy with them.
Compassion and empathy are those emotions which makes a person "think being in others' shoes" and understand what sort of pain the other person is going through and then these emotions start touching our hearts and we start sharing their 'pinch' or 'hurt'. Kindness therefore becomes your mindset and then your soul becomes filled with so much goodwill and faith that the world is full of kind people. We start seeing the good qualities of people first and learn to ignore their cruelty, evil ways and arrogance but embrace their thoughtful actions positively and throwing away the prejudices and negative emotions from our heart.
When you ask someone who is he or she doing and the person says plain 'fine, thank you' we start feeling what pain is lying behind their smile and we learn to understand what that term 'fine' actually means. When you start understanding reading the faces of people and mainly their emotions in their eyes, we know that they are actually not fine but are showing off their peace on the face which they can't hide despite their best of efforts. When you are kind at heart you don't be judgemental about people and you don't form opinions about anyone before truly knowing a person and reading from their behaviours what sort of pain they are going through.
Being kind is your state of mind and it can strengthen your personal relationships with people and gives you mental satisfaction in life. Kindness mindset is defined as the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate showing affection, love, gentleness, warmth, concern and care to the people around and we become closer to god when we are kind in mind.
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5 年Great article ??KISHORE ??SHINTRE?? -??The ??Wise ??Advisor??. Kindness is contagious and can be spread through the act of kindness.
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5 年Kindness starts at home! Kindness it is not what we built but it is our capacity to share, our capacity to give and to love. Kindness is a form of love and it is the best thing we could ever have! Thank you for sharing!
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5 年??KISHORE ??SHINTRE?? -??The ??Wise ??Advisor?? i believe kindness begets kindness.