BEING A "GOOD GIRL" IS NOT A VIRTUE

It is actually the result of trauma.

At some point in your childhood, you understood that in order to be loved, you needed to please those around you. If you didn't, their love was withdrawn.

So, you learned to please them, even if that meant betraying your own feelings, values, beliefs, comfort, dreams, well-being...

Because nothing is as terrible as having your mother or father or siblings withdraw their love from you.

Being a "good girl" shows insecurity, fear, and lack of self-worth.

When we are "good girls", WE CANNOT BE LEADERS - not in our relationship, not with our children and certainly not at work.

Actually, no one will truly value you... they will merely tolerate you... or use you.

They won't respect you either... and the more you give, the less you will be appreciated.

Being a "good girl" is a prison that leads us to burnout because we feel that what we give is never enough... so we give even more. Until we collapse.

Get help and get out of that prison.

Once you are out, you will be able to take the reins of your life!

Pleasing others or getting their approval will no longer be a topic for you. What you will gain is their respect!

And this will make all the difference in the world for you. Because only where there's respect, can there also be admiration and love.

To the kick-ass you!