Being a gentleman is sign of wisdom &maturity

A mature gentleman with wisdom knows how to make each situation work to the advantage of all parties involved. He doesn't have a need to criticize others or sum them up, except when it is done with tact and aids the situation. In other words he knows that “judgment" implies being selective about what he sees, and by no means being fair to the person being judged and so of course he's not going to reveal his judgment of the people involved, in those situations where it obstructs communication or works to either his or their disadvantage. He is experienced with tact and getting situations to run smoothly, and he knows what helps that and what doesn't.

He knows that everyone he encounters, has traveled along a path that he has not traveled and so he knows when to assume, and not to assume. He is cautious about making sense of anything, or anyone, in terms of himself and in terms of the arrangement of the world according to his own personal journey. He doesn't assume that his experience matches another's experience. Because he is mature and experienced, he has experience with being judged and criticised, and the “nature" and dynamics of situations characterized by judgment and criticism. He has probably also thought a lot about this sort of thing, in addition to a great deal of reflection about what he has gained from these experiences.

So some of the signs are: Tact, diplomacy, knows his boundaries, cautious about assumptions, knows why he thinks what he things and where his values come from cultivation and experience. Has a well developed sense of humour and has mastered the art of timing and can effectively use humour to aid in many uncomfortable situations. Also has diverse experience and wealth of experience to draw on knowledge about what is happening in the world outside, politics and government. He can put things in proper perspective and know that balance between big picture thinking and day to day life.

He may have raised a good family and compartmentalises his feelings and has mastery over reactions. He doesn't reveal his judgments and summations of people when those don't help the situations. He's open about his interests and keeps it real with you. Has sponsored the best dating/relationships advice on the web and is financially Stable has had a few relationships. He is not childish but he is extremely realistic respects differences of opinions.

Here are some check lists about being gentlemen. Do they take personal responsibility? Do they treat others with courtesy? Are they accepting of viewpoints that clash with their own? Are they clear about their values and resistant to undue pressure while exhibiting flexibility. Do they read, explore, grow and seek understanding. Have they dealt with emotional issues and found balance. Can they be righteously angry without devolving to violence? Do they think before speaking? Are they generous? Do they work on their character and failings? Can they compromise without losing themselves? Do they maintain good habits and personal standards? Are they reliable and trustworthy? Can they withstand buffeting fortune without collapse? Do they have personal dignity without arrogance? Can they strive without compulsiveness?

Very simply - you know what you like and you know what you don't like. Therefore you adapt your life accordingly. When something falls outside of these parameters, then life experience kicks in and a mature and wise assessment can be applied. Equally, maturity means that you don't judge just because something falls within something that you don't particularly like - Wisdom shows that everyone is different. Yes wisdom and maturity is about responsibility and balance, combined with courtesy. Cheers!