Being fearless is a myth

Just like work-life "balance" doesn't exist, neither does fearlessness.

Every time I pivoted in my career, fear came right with me. And, more recently, when I left an amazing job to be an entrepreneur, fear was all up in my face.?

?She was saying:

• Don’t do it, you’ll regret it.
• You make great money that provides a lifestyle for your family. You really want to jeopardize that? What about your kids’ education?
• You’re underestimating how hard entrepreneurship is and it may not be for you. You may not have what it takes.
• It’s not going to work out the way you think it might. This could be disastrous.
• You’re going to come groveling back if it doesn’t work out. Do you really want to be THAT person? What will people think of you, yikes!
• You’re comfortable where you’re at, why do you want to mess that up?
• Why can’t you just be grateful for all you have and what you’ve accomplished?
• Why do you always want more? Aren't you ever satisfied?

Okay, that was fear mixed with a lot of other things.

But that’s how fear shows up. It doesn’t simply say: hey, I’m scared the future is uncertain.

Your fears punch you in the gut with every insecurity and worry you have. It creates resistance within you, to keep you from doing what you may be exploring. Fear doesn't like when you get bold.

It’s our brain’s way of keeping us safe; our brains don't like unpredictability. And it’s our inner child’s way of keeping us safe too; the thoughts may sound harsh but she’s trying to help you.

When I look at fear and resistance in this way, it allows me to engage with my thoughts and listen, then take action anyway. I trust myself to do this. I trust that I may stand to lose something, but I also stand to gain more than I can imagine.

Things may not happen on my timeline, but I can't control outcomes. All I can do is be intentional and show up every single day. Because I have a dream for my life and the impact I’ve been called to make.

I trust myself to continue to do the work, to lean on my support system, stay focused on my purpose and vision, and move through resistance.

You can trust yourself in this way too. Get clear on what's most important to you at this point in your life. How can you adjust the way you live and work so it's aligned with what matters most to you? We can make work actually work for us. Your personal life and work don't have to be at odds. But you can only feel better about how things are going, if you're willing to do something different.

Be willing to get honest with yourself about what's most important, what you really want out of life, and who the future you is calling you to be.

And don't let your fears censor your answers to these questions. Don't shut yourself down before you're able to give it a chance.

Because your fears will be there - whether they show up as insecurities, worries or something else. The question is: Where will you be, despite your fears?

No one is you, so they can't give you the answer. Just don't wait too long to explore what your answer might be. We make the mistake of assuming we'll always have more time.

We delay and delay, which is just resistance and our fears holding us back.

Time isn't a renewable resource though. We don't get to decide how much time we get on this earth.

Your time is now.

P.S. If you're grappling with a decision or at an inflection point, and you're looking to work with me as your coach, I have two 1:1 coaching spots left. We start this month. I won't be taking on new clients until September. DM me and I’ll send you a scheduling link for an intro call. Get on my email list (link in profile) to be the first to learn about all the ways to work with me.