Being “Different” is not the worst thing ever

Over the last few days I have been thinking about being “different”. 

In this case, different is being gay. No, not being happy… being gay. A homosexual man. A man that likes other men. A man who found the love of his life (who happens to be a man). A man who deeply loves this man. A man who has a husband.

Fun fact

Same-sex marriage has been legal in South Africa since the Civil Union Act came into force on 30 November 2006. A man who is lucky enough to live in a country that allows for “different” marriages. Mainly known as “same-sex marriages” which is more of a civil union than a marriage but it is legal and gives you the legal rights a married couple would have.

While most might think this is a curse to so deeply love someone of the same sex, I have, over the last few years of my life noticed that it is in fact a blessing. It was not always easy, but in the end, I have come to accept and respect where life has taken me. I am also blessed to have VERY accepting family and loving husband.

So, why is it that being “different”, or gay, is not the worst thing ever?

You can plan for family. You can decide what happens with your life (for most part of it). For men, you cannot accidentally fall pregnant. It is a fact (and if you did not know that – now you do). If you are a lesbian couple, you are also more likely to have more control over your family planning.

Success

Now let’s look at some facts and statements one cannot ignore.

1.    Men are still seen as the better earning gender

2.    Woman are catching up and that is a good thing (but there is still an unnecessary gap)

Logically 2 men in a relationship now suddenly have the better earning potential when comparing to 2 women.

Men are not inclined to want to a child (although you get those that do want children) as opposed to women who have a motherly instinct to want to have a child or even more than one.

People ask, “Why is it that gay men have more money” or “Why is gay men so successful”. Well the answers are simple yet complex.

More money

• Gay men generally do not have children. They do have pets though (like our beloved Pomeranians Coco and Chanel). Children are expensive and that alone is a big saver.
• Gay men earn more (in general) than Lesbian women. Men earn more than women which is what I touched on earlier. Just another fact which is sad but true…

Success

• Gay men (again) usually do not have children. This means they have more time to spend at work.
• Spending more time at work you become more successful. You become recognised and you start getting promoted.
• Gay men tend to be more finicky, thorough and meticulous (almost fussy). This is a great quality for when you want to succeed. You don’t accept less than what you deserve or what you have worked for.

So I ask you again, is being “different” so bad? Is it the worst thing ever? In my opinion, no it is not but, BUT I had a supportive family. I live in a country that accepts Gay Marriage. Even though it is South Africa, it is progressive.

On this note – Think again before you judge. Think again before you comment. Think again before you make things worse. Not everyone is as fortunate is I was.