Being a Coward is Limiting your Potential

Most people FEAR what other people think, they fear it so much they’d rather be a coward and keep quiet, to their own detriment, than speak up and stand out. Here’s some context to that statement

I try to live a healthy lifestyle as best I can

I do calisthenics three times a week, ran twice a week till I injured my foot, eat organic (I have my own veggie garden), make sure I know where my meat comes from and what the animals are fed, avoid carcinogenic vegetable and palm oils and I don’t drink tap water, I fetch fresh mountain spring water which provides the back story of this post

The mountain spring collection point has multiple taps, there are signs stating only 25l per person at a time and a paid security guard to regulate the queue and water collection.?

The process of collecting water runs smoothly for the most part

Except one Saturday I arrived to find a massive queue. I walked inside and observed 3 men hogging multiple taps, filling five to ten 25l canisters at a time?

Everyone just stood in line patiently waiting, no one said anything?

Seeing this I walked to the front and asked the guard why these men were filling multiple cannisters at a time

I looked around to the men and women in the queue and each person sunk their head when I made eye contact and looked at the ground

The guard shouted there was no queue when they arrived

I pointed to the multiple signs stating only 25l are allowed per person and told him the huge queue was a result of his failure to do his job?

At this stage the men moved aside from the taps and started waiving for people in the queue to come and fill their bottles

At this point an elderly lady came and thanked me and pointed to the flatbed truck they were loading with 1000’s of litres of spring water

It then dwelled on me most people are cowards, too afraid to speak up for the fear of what other people might think

They would rather stand in line and waste their Saturday afternoon, free time away from work, queuing for water when they needn’t and allow others to abuse a free resource than stand up for themselves by opening their mouth

People are petrified of what other people think. Fearful to stand out. Fearful people would think poorly of them if they spoke up.?

I used to be a coward too, never speaking up and letting things slide?

It’s uncomfortable speaking up at first, but once you do and realise the majority are just as afraid as you or even more so, it really isn’t that bad

I found my voice by finding my values, values I try to live daily?

To the best of my ability, I love and respect myself every day. I am also ruthless with my time; I value it immensely and that’s why I spoke up

I didn’t speak up for the other people

I spoke up for me, so I could live my values and be true to myself

You should always put yourself first but not in a selfish way to the detriment of others. Let me clarify that quickly

My primary value is to be honourable, part of the meaning for me is to be honest with myself and to love and respect myself. If you can’t do that for yourself, you can’t expect to do it when interacting with other people

If I stood in a queue unnecessarily while people abused a resource the message I would be sending to myself is that I don’t value my time and have no respect for it, myself or my values. So I spoke up

If your values are sound and you live them daily the people around you benefit as a by-product

The queue started to move and dissipated within a few minutes. Everyone benefited because I put myself first and lived my guiding value. Going along to get along (putting yourself 2nd) to not stand out harms society, it doesn't protect it

Like the majority of the public, the majority of Pro’s I work with are also too afraid to speak up

Too afraid to ask their coaches to help them facilitate the processes that insure they’re in a good place with their playing skills, a process that protects them from form slumps and builds their confidence regardless of their scores

They’re more afraid of upsetting the coach than doing the things they know help them produce consistent performances?

They put themselves second, like everyone is the water queue?

But what they’re doing is putting their place in the team, career and earnings at risk by improving their chances of producing inconsistent performances because they’re not being true to themselves and their processes

If you want to be a consistent run getter you’ve got to develop a bulletproof mindset

You’ve got to know WHO you are so you don’t give a fuck what coaches, team mates, opposition, fans and the press have to say about you

Once you know that, you need to develop consistent and repeatable processes with measurables in two critical areas of your game:

1. How you think?

2. How you train and play

Do these things and the magic starts to happen and you consistently access your Run Flow State and the runs start to FLOW!