Behind the Screen: The Search for Validation and the Reality of Loneliness

Generally speaking, almost everyone is at war. Whether physical, mental, or metaphysical, it’s always a war somewhere. But, in terms of this narrative, when we are at war, we tend to find things to fill the void of what we want or what is missing. With that being said, you or somebody you’ve known your entire life can be falling apart, and they’re doing everything to feel secure.

But, when people try to feel secure, they seek validation from others to get confirmation. Though that is fine, using social media to seek or find validation is pure foolery, stupidity, and threat, as they do. I’m going to expound on why.

You will never get closure behind a computer.

I don’t care who you are, what you are, what you think, and what you claim to be. If you need validation from someone or something about you or what you do, then that’s the first problem. You need to find peace, happiness, and strength within you. You need to validate yourself first and foremost. What I mean is that you need to keep it a hundred with yourself. With that already being understood when you are one with yourself, there is no need to explain yourself, try to impress, keep up with, make people understand, care, and even make people like you. Now, as far as finding validation on social media, it’s a peculiar thing, at least to me.

The reason is that people go out of their way to impress people they don’t know or like, people they will never meet, and people who don’t even care about them or their social media page. On top of trying to get validation or acceptance, the person seeking that will go through something more profound than that, little do they know. With them trying to make it seem like they are ok, happy, rich, successful, and whatever else, they lie to themselves wholeheartedly. Once they create their social identity on social media, they try to implement that in their personal lives. This is an excellent approach to changing yourself, but you don’t receive the same acceptance you would receive in real life as on social media.

So, now they go back to getting more validation on social media. It’s like a high that some people don’t want to come down from because they are isolated. Not physically but mentally. They try to attain more likes, comments, and interactions, but as they do that, the hole gets deeper and deeper. They always will be ready to use social media for a sense of security. But that’s the point: you will never get enough if you are not right with yourself. In addition, seeking validation could lead to more bullying and unwanted exposure and lead someone to run away, depending on how the people validate you.

Let closure find you.

I know this may sound funny, but let closure find you. Our lives are filled with delightful mysteries, and sometimes, to get closure, you have to go through with the situation, the person, the group, or whatever. It’s like walking through a tunnel. Though you can’t see in the pitch darkness, you might be stumbling, falling, or getting stuck, but there is light at the end of the tunnel. The closure is at the end of everything you do. The closure. It is also not a sensation; it’s a catharsis to the mind.