Behind Every Successful Woman , There is A Man ?

A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend.

A successful woman is one who can find such a man.

A woman without modesty is a flower without fragrance.

Remember the common saying ”Behind Every Successful Man, There is A Woman“? I do not know how this saying starts but it must hold much truth for many variations of similar versions to be be shared *wink*

If your heart, your internal reality, is governed by fear, then you are going to telegraph that through your body language, facial expressions, words, and tone.

Mother is the first Guru. The child learns the alphabet from the mother. The child learns to speak from its mother. She may make him a saint or a ruler or a rogue. She imparts her virtues to her child with her  milk.

Conversely, if your heart is governed by faith, hope, and love, you will release this reality through what you say and how you say it.

Changing Society and Women’s Role

While the society has evolved and there are also a number of daddies who stay at home to tend to domestic matters and kids, the general mentality is still that mommies can do a better job at home while hubbies/daddies carve out a success at work. 

Today, as women receive higher education, many are also showing their capabilities at work. However, the general saying or expectations of a “Behind Every Successful Man There Is A Woman” still remains. A growing number of mommies are striving to carve out a successful career and also strike a balance in family life. 

If your heart is governed by fear, then much of what you communicate is actually designed to hide what is really going on inside. You hold back, pretend something doesn’t hurt, or act happy when your heart is breaking in an attempt to avoid the pain that being “real” can inflict.  

It’s also possible that you (like many) were never taught how to interpret and translate the language of your thoughts, emotions, and desires into words, let alone communicate them to others. As a result, your internal reality has never been validated. Now ashamed and fearful—the results of not knowing how to communicate your feelings—you hide behind an acceptable social mask.

Successful woman is a woman who can combine her career and family, find a balance between these 2 wide fields. It’s a big job and not all cope with it. That’s why I definitely agree with your idea that behind every successful woman, there should be a supportive man. That’s so nice to know you can rely on someone who cares about you.

The Fear of truth is the great hijacker of communication.      When you don’t have either the courage or the ability to face the truth of what you feel, think, and need, you end up communicating confusing and inaccurate information—sometimes even downright falsehoods.

Ask yourself these two questions.

1. If you never really learn to value and understand what’s going on inside you, how can you value and understand what is going on with another person?

2. If you don’t know yourself, how can you get to know another person—someone with a completely different experience and perspective—and value the truth of who they are?  

The answer to both questions is simple.

 You can’t.   

Only those who value and understand themselves can value and understand others. Only those who can communicate honestly with themselves can communicate honestly with others.  

These are both the traits of a powerful person. 

And unless you become a powerful person who values what is going on in your heart, your experience with communication is guaranteed to be an endless sequence of misunderstandings and being misunderstood.

Powerless people communicate out of the fear of truth, and they primarily do it in one of three styles—passive communication, aggressive communication, or passive-aggressive communication. As you’ll see, each of these styles traces back to false core beliefs about the value of what is inside a person. 

Worse, they cultivate fear and destroy connection because they provide a way for people not to tell the truth.

Passive communicators attempt to convince the world that everyone else is more important than they are. 

Their core belief is, “You matter and I don’t.” When faced with a joint decision in a relationship, the passive person insists that the other person’s thoughts, feelings, and needs matter more. If they believe that their feelings, thoughts, and needs are being disrespected, they will simply try to absorb it and move on.

 Passive communicators say things like, “Oh whatever you want.

No, that’s okay.

No, that didn’t hurt.

No, I’m fine.

No, I know you were just upset.

No, I don’t need to talk about this anymore. I’m good.

No, I don’t care where we go—wherever you want! I’m fine. No, I’m great. 

Passive people justify devaluing themselves by painting themselves as long-suffering, patient servants who keep the peace and don’t ever make problems. They think it’s right to have no needs or requirements. 

A man beautifies his wife by cherishing her for what she is. He doesn't let his wife lose her sense of specialness once the honeymoon is over.

He continues to court her. With his words, touches, and actions a husband lets his wife know she is the most important person in his life.

Finally, the Husband praises the virtues and accomplishments of his wife.

He doesn't flatter her, but praises his wife for her successful endeavors.

He lets others know that his wife is extra special.

It means much to a woman to know her husband speaks highly of her to others.

A man can never encourage, compliment, praise, or build up his wife too much.

The Husband is lavish in his praise. Everyone craves appreciation and a compliment, and wives perhaps need (and deserve!) it the most.

A husband can make a tremendous impact on his wife by consciously and consistently looking for opportunities to praise her.

There are few transforming forces more powerful than loving praise.

Nothing can atone for the want of modesty in a woman, without which beauty is ungraceful.

Modesty is a fundamental virtue which she  possesses.

Modesty is a wonderful mixture of humility, politeness, decency, elegance, gentleness and sweetness.

Modesty is the most precious ornament of a woman.

A modest woman is restrained by a sense of propriety. She has good behavior and manners.

Modesty is the mark of true nobility.

A woman without modesty is a mere void although she possesses many other virtues.

Modesty raises a woman to the status of divinity. A modest woman commands respect.

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