Behind every great woman, there's a shit ton of other dope ass women.

Happy International Women's day!! It is no secret that I am a feminist. I am out there living my most authentic and wondrous life trying to inspire other women to do the same. To show them an alternative - so march to the beat of my own drum and to encourage others to do the same. Last year, I wrote a piece about the "10 least wondrous things that I had experienced in business as a woman" - this year, I really am feeling the progress. The hashtag this year #pressforprogress is a good one, we must continue to press for progress because there is still a way to go. To where you may ask? To equal pay. To a supportive and nurturing society where women are not judged by what they wear, what they do, how they work or who they speak to. To a world where we all just get to be who we are destined to be without the unnecessary hula hoops and judgement that go with the current state of play.

I like to imagine a world where I can get up in the morning and feel beautiful without makeup. Wear the same outfit as yesterday without worrying about what people think. Drop my kids to school or get a nanny to do it... start work where I am paid the exact same as any humans doing the same quality and standard of work as I am, regardless of our skin colour or gender. Where I can travel without people gossiping about the fact that I'm a woman leaving my children at home because people know that I'm a responsible and caring mother who always prepares like a mofo to go anywhere with or without my kiddies. Yeah, yeah, I know people say things like "you SHOULD be able to do those things now" but then the reality is that humans are still programmed with old paradigms where they judge without the whole picture... as I like to say, Judgement is just data analysis without all the data.

The BIGGEST change between last year and this year is that I am currently surrounded by a shit ton of dope ass women (and men). I know for years we have been banging on about diversity and inclusion and equality and all that jazz - but the real change for me has been working with like minded humans from all walks of life. When I say likeminded, I don't mean "think the same" - I mean humans who are in the same head space when it comes to values, to goals and to aspirations. In actual fact, I am surrounded by a mixed bag of awesome who all think, process and behave in entirely different ways - but we are all working towards common goals and expressing our own unique selves authentically in the process.

So my PRESS FOR PROGRESS advice this International Women's day for you all is this:

"Stop judging, adopt curiosity and nurture the shit out of the women in your lives... oh and love the shit out of men too"

When you catch yourself judging someone, simply remind yourself - I do not have all the data here.

Each day, get curious and wonder - what would an equal moment look like in this situation? Do we have enough women representing? Are we thinking about the energies of women and men and their different needs? How can we make sure we are being fair and radically inclusive?

Find ways to nurture the shit out of the women in your life. Offer to take the kids for a play at the park, or have one of your friends kids over for an after school play. Book her in for a massage, encourage her to read that book or go on that trip or apply for that job. Be there for her. Take the time to understand yin/yang and how women are different to men. Happy and fulfilled women lift each other and lift those around them, so this is a win-win for everyone involved.

In the fight for equality, the most important thing for me is that we do not forget our polarity. We mustn't forget that we are all unique and different with different needs and different desires. The key to progress for me is in recognising this and nurturing humans to tune into their most authentic self. If we are all able to tune into our authentic selves, our purpose, our passions, our destiny and our why - then get out of each others way by stopping judgement, by adopting a curious mindset and my encouraging and nurturing each other on our journeys - then the whole equality thing strikes a new balance - one where it isn't about men or women, one where it is about humans and happiness.

Oh and finally love the shit out of men too. I can't imagine being a man in todays day and age. You see for a long time there has been one set of rules and we are all trying to navigate the tensions to create a new set - but without offending anyone along the way. The key for me is making sure that everyone's needs get met, that we talk about stuff and that we don't sacrifice anyone along the way. Just because we are shining light on the girly wirly's doesn't mean we can't shine light on men too. As Brene Brown says in her recent book 'braving the wilderness' - "She talks about Black Lives Matter and why All Lives Matter is not the same. She explains it’s not the same “because the humanity was not stripped from all lives the way it was from the lives of black citizens.” That you can’t undo that level of dehumanization in one or two generations...we should not be drawn into false dichotomies of either/or that seek “to shame us for not hating the right people.”"- these concepts are not mutually exclusive, we must shed more love on the areas in humanity that have suffered to bring them into balance so we can move forward as humans on an equal playing ground.

We have come a very long way. We have a way to go.

I cannot tell you how excited I am to be producing www.nurtureher.com this year with Libby Babet, Steve Pirie and Zac De Silva. Coming together with bad ass business partners to create something we are truly proud of is just one of the ways that I am living the change, rather than just talking about it. We will gather 200 amazing female entrepreneurs in stunning Fiji for 4 days of nurturing.

Why nurture? Because empowerment is ace, but something magical happens when we nurture. We allow space for something really authentic to emerge, something sustainable, something real. The key to sustainable change is nurturing, of that I am sure.

Shout out to all the amazing women in my life.... from Libby Babet, the most inspirational and amazing girl on the block to my family and original girl tribe, Kat Turner, Vicki Nally and the Roocroft clan. Gotta love all the incredible women who support and life and inspire me daily... Vanessa Beggs, Jo Burston, Lisa Messenger, Emma Lo Russo, Catriona Wallace, Cathie Reid, Kylie Ostle, Leah Jackson, Nicola Dow Smith, Kirsty Lovell, Emma Nally, Danai Roussos, Jacintha Ackkerman, Marie Doyle, Jo Smyth, Prue Twyford, Alicia Bennett, Monica Ross, Mandi Ford... oh man there are too many to mention so I'll save some for next year. Love your guts out ladies xxx

Happy International Women's day.....