The Beginning Of A Shift

"Time to bring the hammer down," he said. "I've put up with her shit for a long time and now it's my turn."

"Hammer," I responded. "Hmmm..."

"Let me ask you a question. Pretend we weren't talking about the woman you promised to love and honor and cherish who is also the mother of your children. Pretend we are talking about a jagged piece of wood with nails sticking out of it. How would you be able to transform that situation? Would you bring the hammer down- or would you use it differently- perhaps using the claw part to remove the nails in order to free up the wood?"

"Yes," he said.

"Then, what would be the next tool you might use?"

He sighed. "Sandpaper to smooth out the rough, jagged edges."

There was a moment of silence and then he said in a very different tone of voice-

 "I never thought of it that way before."

Indeed. Perhaps life is not only about having the tools - it's also about the intention we bring to the use of them.

@CoachMeDave