Becoming More Socially Aware
Grant Herbert
Empowering today's great professional services technicians to become exceptional leaders | Executive Coach | Team Coach | Leadership Trainer and Mentor | Inspirational Keynote Speaker | Mental Health Advocate
Do you sometimes find that working with other people, who are also emotional beings, is a little bit challenging?
We think we can read what's going on for them the same as we can for ourselves but unfortunately, a lot of times, we make assumptions that aren't true which can make the relationship, the conversation, or whatever you're working with (in that moment) a little uncomfortable and difficult.
Well, that's okay. Stick with me because, in this week's episode, I want to get back into our regular conversation around all things Emotional Intelligence by helping you to?become more socially aware.
Social intelligence?is the ability to be aware of what?could?be going on in the other person, and it brings in a desire to understand through their lens, not through ours.
One of the biggest challenges with some of the teachings around emotional intelligence is that you are led to believe that when you experience a certain emotion, others will experience the same emotion as well.
Just like the triune and the lizard brain has been debunked in neuroscience, so too have these untruths that are not helping you. You need to unlearn those so that you can learn new things.
The first thing you need to do is understand that the way you interpret and navigate a particular emotion can be totally different for somebody else.
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So why is that important?
Suppose you go into an interaction, and you look at the facial expression of the other person, and that's the facial expression you use when experiencing a certain emotion. In that case, you may think they are going through that emotion as well and that’s where the miscommunication and misunderstanding come in.
There is no set pattern of facial expressions for emotions. Everybody has their own experience and responds and reacts to different emotions in different ways.
So, to differentiate between what you are feeling and what the other person could be feeling, you need to bring in some other elements and competencies to assist you.
Social Intelligence starts with?social awareness, and the key element of that is...
Grant Herbert (aka The People Builder) describes himself as an ordinary guy, with an outstanding wife and 5 amazing kids, who has a passion to help people escape the performance trap and regain their authenticity in every area of life. He is a VUCA Leadership Mentor, Sustainable Performance Coach, Master Coach Trainer in Social and Emotional Intelligence,?and the founder of People Builders.
Visit?www.grantherbert.com?to find out how you can connect.