Becoming A Better Listener
Raymond A. Merritt
Mentor/Coach Entrepreneur | Empowering Learners, Educators, Authors, Writers, and Creators to Achieve Financial & Time Freedom Through Innovative Community-Driven E-Learning, Creation & Promotion | U.S. Army Vet ????
Becoming A Better Listener
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Listening is a critical skill for anyone in a professional setting. Whether you are in a meeting, on a conference call, or giving a presentation, being an effective listener is key to success. Unfortunately, many people do not know how to listen effectively. As a result, important information is missed, deadlines are not met, and projects are not completed.
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Listening effectively does not come naturally to most people. It is a skill that must be learned and practiced. If you want to become a better listener, there are some things you can do to improve your skills.
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1. Pay attention to the speaker.
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This may seem like common sense, but you would be surprised how often people do not actually pay attention to the person who is speaking. If you want to be an effective listener, you need to give the speaker your full attention. Turn off your phone, close your laptop, and do not allow yourself to be distracted by anything else going on around you.
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2. Listen for understanding, not just to respond.
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Too often, people only half-listen to what someone is saying because they are already thinking about what they are going to say in response. If you want to be an effective listener, you need to truly understand what the other person is saying before formulating a response. This may mean asking clarifying questions or repeating back what the person said to ensure that you understand their meaning.
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3. Be patient and do not interrupt.
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It can be tempting to want to jump in and offer your opinion or share your own experiences when someone else is talking. However, if you want to be an effective listener, it is important that you resist this urge and let the other person finish speaking before chiming in with your thoughts. Not only will this show that you respect the other person's opinion, but it will also give you a chance to fully understand their position before responding.
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4. Avoid making assumptions and judgments.
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One of the biggest mistakes people make when listening is assuming that they know what the other person is going to say before they have even finished speaking. This can lead to misunderstandings and conflict down the road. To avoid this, try to suspend judgment until after the other person has finished speaking and you have had a chance to process what they have said.
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5. Be open-minded and empathetic.
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For communication to be effective, both parties need to be open-minded and willing to see things from the other person's perspective. This can be difficult, especially if you strongly disagree with what the other person is saying. However, if you can set aside your personal biases long enough to truly understand where the other person is coming from, it will go a long way towards improving communication.
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6. Ask questions.
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One of the best ways to ensure that you’re understanding what someone is saying is to ask questions. Asking questions also shows that you’re engaged in the conversation and interested in what the other person has to say. Make sure to ask open-ended questions that cannot be answered with a simple yes or no so that you can get more information from the other person.
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7. Give feedback.
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After the other person has finished speaking, it is important to give feedback so that they know you were listening to them. This feedback can be positive (e.g., "I completely agree with you") or constructive (e.g., "I see where you're coming from, but I think there might be another way to look at it”) as long as it shows that you were paying attention to what was being said.
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Conclusion:
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Becoming a better listener takes time and effort, but it is well worth it in terms of improved communication and relationships both professionally and personally. If you take the time to practice these listening skills, you'll soon find yourself becoming more successful in all areas of your life!
I train people to become Life Coach Practitioners and to start their own businesses – I am an International Personal Development Trainer – I created Coach4success Pty Ltd to offer world class, affordable programs
1 年Love that Raymond. Thank you