Become the best version of yourself

Diary of an Empowered Single Mum (24/01/2021)

Pausing January 2021 was the best thing I did - Even if it was just for a few weeks.

The couple of weeks break was just what I needed- especially knowing I can go back to some normality when the kids return to school next week.

"You have to go to bed earlier, 10pm max" my doctor told me.

I'm sure I didn't really hear what she said after that, because I was too busy over thinking about all the things I wouldn't get done if I went to bed at 9.30pm. Like the dishes, the washing, my work.....

"And you need to stop napping during the day." She mentioned. This time I perked up.

"The nap is the only thing that keeps me going," I said "and then i'll work in the evening until 12-1am".

Obviously this answer was ridiculous. Looking back on it, I know it was.

You see, since my birthday last year in September, life has felt like the beginning of one of those scary rollercoasters. That moment when you jump on the ride and you go fast for a little bit, and then there are lots of twists and turns and it moves faster, and then it makes you feel a little nauseas before you begin ascending higher.. and higher and higher and then you get to the top and you suddenly stop

Then comes the big dive.

And then you come hurtling down- before you spill your guts on the person sitting in front of you..

That's what January 2021 felt like.

The spilling of my guts on the big dive.

I came crashing down faster than I could say "What the hell just happened..!!!"

In all fairness, the last 4 months have been the most challenging. In the same month I had a very close family member pass, a once family member become estranged, I said no to being gaslit, assume sole carer of my two children, chopped off the top of my finger and turned 40.

I took it as a sign that the universe wanted me to just take a break.

"GET SOME REST" The Universe shouted.. as I binge watched yet another season of my sexy man "Lucifer".

I was so busy trying to veg out, and hold it all together that I lost a part of myself.

Parenting during a pandemic is hard enough. Parenting during a pandemic, during school holidays when your kids just want to go out, and you just want to work- well you see where this is going.

I wanted to scream.

The night that told my kids to put themselves to bed (and then went to bed myself). I realised something needed to change.

Sometimes pressing the reset button isn't such a bad thing.

So here are some of things that helped me push the reset button:

• J showed my clients that showing up as "genuine" is okay. By posting fun, messy videos that show the true me.
• I got myself a calendar, and scheduled in all my laundry/washing/domestic chores from February to May
• I paused my business and took some rest so I could be the best coach for my clients
• I spent time teaching my children to take responsibility for our space, rather than trying to be the one that did everything
• I let my kids play on their devices and PS4. It's holidays. Let kids be kids.
• I started teaching my children how to prepare their own food & make dinner
• I let my kids read their favourite books to me
• I decluttered areas of my house that were causing me the most stress and mess.. like my wardrobe, kitchen cupboards and kids toys
• I slept when my body told me to.
• I went for long walks on the beach
• I dedicated my evenings JUST FOR ME.. Like doing art, colouring, diamond dots, singing or reading

I came back to the heart of being me.. not trying to be perfect.. not trying to be anyone. Just me.

Let this inspire you to become the best version of yourself, every day. You don't need to be perfect or do things perfectly. You just have to show up every day, as yourself.

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