Beauty of a relation is "giving without a reason"

Years and years have gone by and so many beings have come and passed who tried to articulate the true meaning of love through books and films and music and yet, I haven’t seen or heard or read a very accurate description; only bits and pieces that led me to come up with my own interpretation. To put it simply (for now), my answer to your question is obviously: No. You cannot love someone without a reason. Though you could already love someone without having realized yet why you do. But in order to love someone, you in fact do need a reason.

And now, to put it in a much more complex manner because one simply cannot explain love without it reaching an extent considered to be complex since the topic itself is complex and the reason being Love isn’t just one thing. Love is a combination of a lot of other things (of feelings, but mostly of actions—which goes to say already that love isn’t exactly a noun. It’s meant to be a verb for the most part. An action word). Love is the perfect balance of the feeling (of attraction, affection, and all that romantic crap that they all talk about), commitment (the dedication, the willingness), understanding (the ability for someone to really see and therefore assess in general), and trust (the familiarity and therefore, faith).

If what you have with someone is only one or a few in what I stated above, then that’s hardly love at all. If it’s just the feeling then most likely that’s just attraction, admiration, infatuation (amongst the many other feelings associated with romance). If it’s just commitment then that’s just an obligation, a responsibility you feel for someone you probably owe or need. If it’s just understanding then you only have a connection and that’s possible as well between friends or even strangers. If it’s just trust then that’s only familiarity and faith tested by experience because how could you gain someone’s trust if you’re not familiar with them and haven’t proven their worth through experience? So you see, love isn’t just one thing. It’s a hell lot more complicated than that. But now that I’ve cleared up what ‘love’ actually is, I can therefore further explain why one would need a reason to love someone.

You don’t love a person just because. No. You love a person simply because it’s just them. You love a person because despite their qualities and personality (which actually hardly matters in a relationship since a relationship doesn’t progress based on your many good qualities and personality; it works based on how well the two of you work on your relationship—key word: work. A verb.) they’re the only ones who acts a certain way towards you. So really, you don’t love a person because of how good they are (although that should be considered as well) but because of how they act towards you and how well they work on the relationship.

You love someone because you don’t know anyone else who would know how to treat you the way they know how you want to be treated. You love someone for how much they work on your relationship together. Because that shows how much they want you. Because that shows how much they want to be with you. Because that shows that they truly see you and value you. Because that shows how much they could do for you. You love someone for their ability to love you back. There. That’s just it.

To put it simply: you only come to love someone because of how they are towards you. Because of their actions. Not just for who they are. It doesn’t matter if they’re fucking Aphrodite or just a mere mortal like Psyche, if they don’t treat you the way you think you should be treated then they don’t mean shit. Love people for their actions, not just their being. And you would only come to love them truly in that sense if you’ve learned to love yourself first. Because how exactly could you love someone for how they treat you if you don’t even know how you should be treated? If you don’t know for sure what you deserve?

A little advice as well to throw in to this lengthy and (I presume) mind-numbing explanation: Never settle for less. Any one of us human beings deserve at least the best in everything, if we only took care to discover our worth or even to work on it (being worthy). Because it’s a shame to have this much potential only to receive half of everything from what the world has to offer. Especially in love—you must never settle for less (like mere attraction or affection, mere obligation or responsibility, mere connection, mere familiarity because that’s not love at all). Take this conversation for example:

Lady: Why do you like me? Why do you love me?

Man: I can't tell the reason. But I really like you.

Lady: You can’t even tell the reason. How can you say you like me? How can you say you love me?

Man: I really don't know the reason, but I can prove that I love you.

Lady: Proof? No! I want you to tell me the reason. My friend’s boyfriend can tell her why he loves her but not you!

Man: “Ok.. Ok..! Er.. Because you are beautiful, Because your voice is sweet, Because you are caring, Because you are loving, Because you are thoughtful, Because of your smile.”

The lady felt satisfied with the answer and was happy.

Unfortunately, the lady met with an accident and went into coma.

The guy then placed a letter beside her and here is the content:

Darling, Because of your sweet voice that I love you. Now do you have sweet voice? No! Therefore I cannot love you. Because of your care and concern that I like you. Now that you cannot show them, therefore I cannot love you. Because of your smile that I love you. Now do you have a smile? No! Therefore I cannot love you. If love needs a reason, like now, there is no reason for me to love you anymore. Do love need a reason? NO! Therefore, I still love you. And love doesn't need a reason. With love always, Forever yours, LOVE. Cheers!