Battles of Balance —The Goldilocks Effect for Active Introverts

How often do you read or hear…

“Do more _____ to live your best life.”

“Cut out _____ to enhance your life and wellbeing.”

“Never…”

“Always…”

Our world often pushes us to extremes.

Finding balance—not too much or too little—can be exhausting. The "Goldilocks Effect" concept is about discovering the "just right" of your life. For active introverts who value personal success and a fulfilling life, mastering this balance is critical to thriving without burning out.

And let me repeat: it’s #$@&* exhausting to try to find and do the “right” things.

Examples of Balance in Life and Work

Life:

Maximizing Health vs. Living A Strict Routine: I am at a point in my life where I am really focusing on my health for today and my future. (Note: We should all be doing that throughout life, but you come to a point where you realize you are not as invincible as you think you are.)

For every tip, best practice, or latest breakthrough, there is a counter-study warning of its effect. Once you do find a routine or plan you want to put into practice (this is me with the low-carb “diet”), it eventually feels like your focus is on the routine (primarily not to screw it up) than on progress and changes.

All The Things I Want to Do vs. What I Have Time to Do: Squirrel! Shiny things. Monkey mind. Whatever you call it, if you are a curious type there is a neverending flow of ideas or cool things you want to do. Do new things. Don’t have regrets about not doing something you wish you had at the end of your life. And on and on.

But that Some Day list (shoutout to GTD) grows to the point you only add now rather than review. When will you ever get to those things?! Do you really want a list at the end of your life so you can efficiently recall your regrets?

Work:

Maximizing Career Growth vs. Enjoying What I Really Love to Do:? “Take the chance!” “Put yourself out there.” “You never know until you try.” All advice I’ve given and advice I’ve blown off myself. Your ambition drives your success, but burnout can follow when career or aspirational goals overshadow your well-being.?

By the time I was wrapping up elementary school, I was learning from others that replacing Joe Morgan as the second baseman for the Cincinnati Reds was not a “realistic” life goal. In hindsight, replacing your childhood hero is indeed a kickass life goal to hold. But we begin believing the “adults.”

Collaboration vs. Solitude: In today's world of work, teamwork is essential, but so is the need for solitude to think deeply and creatively. Even all your extroverted friends are struggling with this one.?

For introverts, too much collaboration can be draining, and too little can exclude you from significant data or further opportunities. Looking for that right mix for yourself and what others need or want from you can be a daily challenge.

What You Can Do Right Now to Begin Creating Balance:

Set Boundaries That Flex: Establishing boundaries is vital, but so is the ability to adjust them when needed. For instance, designate specific hours for deep work and social interactions, but be open to adjustments based on your current needs. This flexibility allows you to maintain balance without feeling trapped by rigid schedules. I love the word Flex. It is intentional and situational.?

Adopt the 'Three-Task Rule': Stop overwhelming yourself. Focus on completing just three significant tasks each day—one work-related, one personal, and the third is wherever your attention and action are needed that day. This approach ensures steady progress without overcommitting, helping you maintain a healthy balance between your professional ambitions and personal life (as well as a sliding list of to-do's).

Practice 'Intentional Solitude': Piece of cake, right, introverts? Not always. Purposely schedule regular moments of solitude with a clear purpose—whether for reflection, meditation, or simply reshuffling what is in front of you. A few intentional moments help you recharge and provide time to process your experiences, contributing to a more balanced and fulfilling day.

Action-Provoking Questions

• What areas of my life feel overwhelming or underwhelming, and how can I adjust to find a better balance?

• How can I ensure that my personal and professional goals align with my need for balance and well-being?

Finding balance is a continuous exercise that can be hard and exhausting. By recalling and embracing the Goldilocks Effect, you can create days that feel "just right"—not every day, but at least most days. Build a life where you thrive, not just survive.

Thank you for getting this far. You rock.

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Wishing you a serene and productive week ahead.?

Joe,

Active Introvert