The Battle With Acceptance - 5 Signs You Are Struggling
Richard Grehalva Leadership Coach, Sales Training TEDx
A recognized authority on personal development, executive leadership coaching, ,B2B sales training, sales coaching using proprietary methodologies with a tactical framework to create the positive change people want.
Struggling with acceptance in life can look different from person to person, though there are some common signs of this particular type of struggle. All people experience issues with acceptance of something at some point in their lives; it is normal and natural to struggle with accepting something as fact or reality.
If you recognize any of these common signs within yourself, it may be a sign that you are struggling with acceptance in your own life.
1. You experience a lot of denial, especially when you are going through a difficult or challenging situation in life.
You may find it challenging to acknowledge the reality of a situation you are facing if you struggle with acceptance. You may constantly deny the truth of your reality, avoid having discussions about the issues, or try to clear your mind of thinking about it entirely–in fact, you may do whatever it takes to completely avoid handling a difficult situation in your life!
This extreme form of denial is a key sign that you are struggling with acceptance. The first step toward finding a viable solution is being able to acknowledge that a problem exists so you can accept it, but if you live in denial, that crucial first step won’t happen.
2. The idea of actually facing your emotions feels impossible–so you just don’t do it.
You may try to avoid feeling the emotions associated with the situation you are trying to avoid. You might distract yourself, keep busy constantly with various tasks, or engage in substance abuse to numb, ignore, or hide the emotions you're experiencing.
Rather than actually processing your emotions, you find it easier to ignore or hide them, which allows you to avoid accepting anything that is happening in your life. If you can’t actually face and process your feelings, then you will not be able to reach any kind of acceptance with what you’re facing in life.
3. You experience constant feelings of anger and resentment.
You may frequently feel angry or resentful about the situation you’re facing if you struggle with acceptance. Your emotions are often intense and might be directed at others or even yourself. Because you likely aren’t dealing with any of your emotions in a constructive and helpful manner, you are becoming extremely frustrated–at the end of the day, this can lead to lots of misguided anger and resentment in your life because those big, difficult emotions don’t have a proper outlet.
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4. You may feel like you are constantly thinking about whatever is happening in your life.
You may feel like you continuously dwell on the situation at hand, replaying events and conversations in your mind. You might obsessively think about what could have been or repeatedly ask "why" questions–even if you know you can’t possibly go back and re-do or fix anything. Because you are constantly ruminating and obsessing over what happened or what you are experiencing, you may struggle to accept the reality of it all.
5. You feel isolated and withdrawn from any kind of socializing.
When you struggle to accept something that is happening within your life, you may withdraw from social interactions and isolate yourself from others. You may feel disconnected, finding it difficult to relate to people who don’t understand your situation.
Rather than trying to connect with other people (and with your own reality), you may find it easier to separate yourself from any kind of social interaction that might force you to be realistic about whatever is happening in your life instead of facing it head-on.
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Richard Grehalva
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