The Barriers to Thinking Abundantly
One of my earliest memories of selfishness is when my dad gave me a stick of gum and asked me to share it with my sister.?I took 3/4s of it and gave her the rest.?(Sorry, Jenni.)
I was probably 5 years old then.
What motivated my selfishness??I’m sure it was a scarcity mindset.?I assumed there was no more gum left and thought I’d take all I could get.?
I’d like to think that I’m a more abundant thinker as an adult, but I’m not perfect.?My scarcity mindset runs strong when situations like these occur:
·?????I feel resources are scarce – when there’s last seat on the airplane and I’m on standby with a dozen others.
·?????There’s low-trust in a relationship – and if I give, I’m not sure what I’m going to get in return.
·?????I’m at the bottom of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs – when I’m tired or sick, I’m not thinking about others.
Sometimes a scarcity mindset isn’t bad – we’re hardwired to self-defend.?Yet, in other scenarios, self-preservation can limit our ability to build relationships, promote teamwork, and serve those around us.
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Stephen Covey, in his groundbreaking book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, introduced the idea of an abundant mindset.?He shares that this mindset, which is a choice, holds the belief that there are enough resources and successes to share with others.?And, when we think about how we can use our gifts to better the lives of those around us, we win.?The wins, also, can be far, far bigger when we work collectively
An example??I like to think of a friend and mentor of mine, Wendy H. Steele – she’s the creator of Impact 100.?She launched her organization when she realized that as generous as women can be, our generosity is limited when we don’t coordinate and collaborate with others. ?She’s pioneered giving circles globally, which is where women pool their resources, like $1000 checks, and give to non-profit organizations.?A random $1000 check makes little impact on a non-profit.?But 100 $1000 checks??That level of investment changes the game!
What does an abundant mindset look like in your world??Here are some ideas:
Our mindset is our choice.?If we find ourselves feeling the pressure of scarcity, make a point to challenge your instincts and think of how you can think differently and, in doing so, act abundantly.?Your commitment to think broader and more collaboratively allows you to building lasting relations that allow trust to thrive.
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Learn more about Angie by visiting her site: www.angiewitkowski.com
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1 年Great stuff Angie! I like how you started with a story from your childhood. That to me indicates that even in our childhood innocence we are born into some level of brokenness. We like to believe that as children our intentions are pure but really, they are about self-preservation. That is why we need others (like family, friends and mentors) to help us to learn to trust. Faith in others is imperative for growth. When we learn to trust we tend to loosen our grip on what we've gathered and are more open to sharing with those around us.
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1 年Angie Morgan Witkowski, so appreciate your perspective on generosity and thinking abundantly. You've definitely mastered this skill beautifully. Can't wait to see you in TC!
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1 年Abundant thinking is a journey for sure. When I started down this path more than a decade ago, things changed for the better - in my attitude, in my life, in my work and in my relationships. When I went through my divorce, rather than wishing bad things on him, I wished good things for me and my kids. That shift had a profound impact in my life, showing that positivity and abundance was a choice. I try to make that same choice every day in everything I do. But it is a work in progress. Start with positive intent and give others that benefit as well. This simple adjustment diffuses power struggles and improves outlooks. This amazing attitude shift toward abundance makes an incredible difference in the quality of our businesses and our lives. Thanks for the prompt Angie Morgan Witkowski
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1 年Thank you Angie. I like the focus on mindset and choice. Regarding the scarcity mindset, my good friend's father would have one of the siblings make the split and the second sibling would get to choose. Amazing how close to equal the split became!
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1 年Thanks for Sharing.