Bad or Poor Speaking and Communication Undermines Your Ceoship, Leadership, Managerial or Professional Credibility, Performance, Impact, Authority,

When you are holding a conversation, do not COMPETE with your other person in the conversation. COMPETING CONVERSATION is one of the TERRIBLE , BAD AND GREAT SPEAKING AND COMMUNICATION human tendencies. I list communication as one of the most important and powerful skills that are grossly ignored even by many people in management and leadership much to their serious disadvantage. There are two main forms of communication. First is self-communication or intrapersonal communication. People largely ignore this form of communication yet it is far more important that interpersonal communication. Many people are terrible to bad in their self communication-how they communicate with themselves.?

Then we have interpersonal communication, which is communication with other human beings as individuals or groups. Again, people are generally mediocre to average because they never invest time and money conscious development or improvement of their communication abilities. The majority of people especially struggle at speaking.

Regarding general interpersonal communication, the big problem is the human tendency to be self-focused, meaning the unconscious bias to want to speak about ourselves and COMPETE in our conversations. We tend to compete in many ways including;

1. Competing for space by jumping in-When one is speaking we tend to want to jump in before the other person has finished her sentence or her message.?

2. Dominating the space by going on and on and on speaking without giving the other person room to contribute to the discussion or conversation.?

3. Dominating by hijacking the conversation by turning the conversation focus away from the initiator to our own-This is also called agenda-shifting.?

4 Dominating by superimposing or cancelling or neutralising the other person's message by substituting with your own version which you project to be better than that being given by the other person. This is competing on content.?

There are many more forms ad twists of terrible to bad interpersonal communication but these once are classic examples.?

These habits seem to be hard-wired; and natural and this is why people, especially leaders, managers and professionals, must invest time and energy to develop and improve their communication and presentation skills.?

Next time you hold a conversation with someone, pay attention to yourself and the other person and you can pick this up. It is either you find yourself wanting to jump in or you find the other person jumping in and even competing with you on content and focus. Instead of focusing on you the person will direct the conversation to herself or himself and away from you or you can do the same to the other person. This is bad communication.?

Every conversation has an initiator. Focus the conversation on the initiator by listening more than you talk. Resist the temptation to trivialise or counter the initiators message by turning the tables to yourself.?

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