Avoid This One Thing When Your Frame Is Attacked In A Conversation
Nate Anglin
CEO @ Skylink Group - Optimizing Global Nose-to-Tail Aircraft Mx Material Needs | I Help Empower B2B Leaders to Reduce Overwhelm, Boost Team Effectiveness & Reclaim Their Greatest Investment—Time.
When you control the frame, you control the conversation.
A frame is a concept from the field of neurolinguistic programming, which is "the study of how language interacts with the brain." It's the setting, method, and tone of how a piece of information is being presented to your brain.
When emotions enter your frame, you slowly begin to lose control.
Avoid negative emotions to keep control of your frame.
When someone is attacking your frame and you become emotional, the best decision is to?separate yourself from the conversation.
Once you feel the bubbles of emotion pulsating through your veins, take a few seconds to:
Separating yourself from a trigger allows you to calm down.
When you're calm, you can reason.?You instantly become more logical. But, there are times when you need to walk away.
When you do, say something like, "I have to leave this conversation. I'm too attached to the topic right now and I don't want to say something I don't mean." Notice the word "attached."
When you label your emotion as "I'm attached" or "passionate," you become more in control of the narrative.?Don't label yourself as "I'm angry, "I'm mad," or "I'm sad."
Instead of being characterized as contentious, you're passionate about the topic.
"One is a virtue while the other is a vice," the authors write in?The Power Bible.
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