Attract Positive People

Can you attract positive people into your life?

Well, this is one of the questions I normally get from my students in the training program.

In this short presentation, I'm going to take you through a step-by-step process on how you can attract positive people into your life.

We need to understand that we all transmit energy.

It could be either positive energy or it could be negative energy depending upon the scenario, the situation, the event, the people around you, and your mindset.

When you transmit this energy of yours, it is picked up by other people and they come back to you.

When you work together with positive people, it becomes very easy for you to achieve your goals.

Positive people will encourage you.

Positive people will support you.

At the same time, negative people will drag you down.

They will pull you down.?

They will say that you can't achieve.?

Understand one thing - Do not believe that.

If somebody tells you that you will fail - Do not believe that.

If they say it is impossible, then do not believe them.

If you keep on saying to yourself, it's impossible in your mind, then you are right. It is impossible.?

If you keep on saying that it's possible in your mind, then you are right. It is possible and it is right.

If you keep on saying that, you will fail, then again, you are right. You will definitely fail because that's exactly what you are telling yourself.

What you say to yourself is very powerful than anybody else saying to you. The story that you tell to yourself, the story of failure that you tell to yourself, the story of success that you share with yourself.

Ensure there's harmony between what you say and what you want.

If there is no alignment between what you want and what you say, then it's very hard to achieve your goals.

You get what you say most of the time. If you keep on saying that you want to lose weight - that is a negative statement.?Rather than saying that I want to lose weight, you should be saying that I want to be healthy. It's a positive statement.

Whatever you say or tell yourself most of the time - that's going to happen to you.

You get what you think most of the time because your subconscious mind keeps on working day and night 24 by 7.?If you think that you are going to succeed just before you go to bed, your subconscious mind will keep repeating the same thing again and again in your mind.

?Always be mindful to use only positive language.

You get what you focus on.

You get what you think about.

You get what you say all the time.

If you focus too much on your small paycheck or salary then please remember, you must change your focus. You must think big.

If you keep on thinking about the unhealthy condition that you're going through right now, it's time for you to shift your focus. You got to think big.

If you are focusing on the broken relationship that you have, then you've got to change your mindset, you've got to change your focus.?You got to think big.

Maybe your parents were your role models. Maybe they kept criticizing you, blaming you or maybe they did not encourage you, motivate you, or inspire you to take action or to do something that you love to do.?

Maybe you are always surrounded by people who are negative in nature.?This could be your friends. It could be your family. It could be your close relatives. It could be the surrounding that you are in. It could be anyone.??

It's time for you to break this cycle or this pattern of negativity. It's time for you to say no. You've got to raise your standards of expectation.?This is something that I learned from Tony Robins.

If you want to move forward, you must raise your standard to the next level. Only then you will be able to achieve and grow. And you will be able to move forward.

You've got to find people who are better than you. And you must associate with them. You have to connect with them.?It's not necessary that you have to physically meet them.?If it's not possible for you to physically meet them, at least you should be able to meet them online or maybe get into a mastermind with them or learn from them. That's what you must do.

People who emit positive energy should be your circle because these people can influence you. Just like negative people can influence you, positive people can also influence you therefore, look for people who are positive in nature and get closer to them, learn from them. Always look for people better than you.

This is a key thing that I would like to advise you:?If you have got a team of people or friendship circle, and if you are the most intelligent and wise person in that group then do understand that you are in the wrong group?You should be looking for a group which is far better than you, whereby you become the learner, you become the student and you keep your cup empty.

Check on yourself, check on the people that are around you.?Are you the top in the circle? Are you the one to advise? Are you the one to whom people come and seek advice? then it's time for you to change.

Look for the Eagles, look for people who are far better than you in different areas. You will find people who are good maybe at management, or leadership, you have to mingle with them.

If you want to increase or build or improve your spirituality, then you've got to look for a circle of people who are far better than you in that specific area.

How can you do that?

You must identify what are your strengths and what are your weaknesses and based on your weaknesses, you should be looking for circles that are far better than you.?

You must look for people you admire.?

To find out people you admire, it's very important for you to know what type of person you want to be. What is that you want to be in your life?

If you do not know what is that you want to be or what you want to have in your life or what is that you want to do in your life, then it would be very hard for you to find out the right people and the right circle.

If you want to find the right cycle and be with people that you admire, then make sure that you know exactly what you want to have. What is that you want to do and what is that you want to be??

One thing that I always educate my students around the world is to ask six questions. These are very simple six questions and I want you to make note of this.

The first question is: What is it that you want to improve?

It could be in different areas. It could be physical, mental, spiritual, emotional, relationship, finance, or whatever it is. What is the area that I want to improve??

It's not necessary that it must be finance.

It could be broken down.?It could be about earning money, it could be about investing money, it could be about how to spend money, it could be about your retirement plan.?You can go deeper and deeper based on your requirement.

So, the first question is “What is it that I need to improve”?

The second question you need to ask is “What is it that I need to learn in order to improve?”

The third question you need to ask is “What is it that I need to change in order to improve?”

The fourth question you need to ask is “What is it that I need to stop in order to improve?” There could be a lot of things that you're doing right now, which is not allowing you to move and grow forward.?Therefore, you need to ask this question, what is that I need to change so that I can move to the next level, or what is that I need to stop so that it can take me to the next level?

Question number five, “What is it that I'm currently doing?”?What is that I'm doing right now? What is the action that I'm taking right now?

The last and most important question is “Who can help me?”

As a leader, you don't have to be shy about asking questions.?You can ask questions and feel proud of asking questions.?I do ask a lot of questions. I ask and I learn from my students.?Let go of your ego. The ego is a bottleneck that will not allow you to grow and excel in your life.?If you have an ego, take it off.?It is not gonna help you.??

There are a lot of areas that we do not know.?You should be ready to learn.?Just like the Chinese proverb, “Keep your cup empty” so you can learn from people who are much more experienced than you.?You can also learn from people who are younger to you.?They may be junior to you but they may be better in specific areas that are your weaknesses.

You will attract people who hold the same set of values that you have. If you are trustworthy, if you are honest, if you have integrity as one of your values, if compassion is one of your values, if adding value is one of your values then you will find those people because you'll start attracting that type of people.

Be open to accepting and be open to giving.?You will attract people who enjoy your company, and you will attract people to the company that you would be enjoying.?It's a win-win situation.?When you get this type of person, let me tell you, you will enjoy it so much, and you will not know or realize that time is flying.

Be open to growing & excel and be open to making good friends.

When I say good friends, I'm not talking about those who are going to take away your time. I'm talking about friends who can educate you, empower you, and take you to the next level.??That's what I mean.?

I've got a lot of friends. Most of my friends are my students. If I take my intimate close friends, I got less than 10 friends. So, ask yourself who are your good friends?

Whom are you associated with? Who are those people with whom you spend time and when you spend the time you don't realize that the time is flying??These are the people who can help you grow and excel in your life.

Be with people who enjoy the same sense of humor that you enjoy.?

Don't be serious about life. You should enjoy life. You don't have to be perfect.?I'm not perfect and I never like to be perfect. You don't have to go for perfection.

There are a lot of weaknesses that I have, and I respect those weaknesses because I'm not the Creator.?I’m just the creation of the Creator.?

Therefore, enjoy life - whether that be with your family, with your wife, with your husband, with your spouse, with your parents, with your grandparents, with your in-laws, with your kids, family, with your friends - enjoy that life and have some fun. You are a human being.

You might be the CEO of a company with more than 500 people, and 10,000 people who are working under you.?That doesn't mean that you're not a human being. Be a human being before you get into any role. Those rules like CEO, manager, VP, or C-suites or whatever, are just titles.?End of the day, you're a human being like everybody. So, enjoy your time, enjoy your life.

Look for people who connect with you and can enjoy the set of humor that you have.

Hope you enjoy the session with me.

My next topic would be the 10 ways to attract positive people.?There I will be taking you through different ways to attract positive people.

?I'll see you in the next session.

Till then take care and enjoy life