Asymetric Sensitivity- What's that all about?

Ever wondered about people who demand huge sensitivity from others but show so little themselves? Me too. What follows is far from scientific just thoughts from a flight.

Self awareness is usually at the root of it. You might simply not know this is how you come across and once someone with deft feedback skills lets you know then you can adapt quickly to suppress those unhelpful natural urges. 

Wonky antennae might be another problem. Others may think they are giving you obvious signals, facially or verbally, but you just don't pick them up. Practicing guessing what's in the thought bubbles as opposed to the words can help if this is the problem.

Higher than normal competitive instincts might be another factor. The pursuit of winning and achieving one of our objectives can sometimes make us blind to the objectives and feelings of others. Again try experimenting with other approaches, especially when you don't need to.

Being a little power tipsy and having an overly accomodating team could be another reason this happens. Think Lions and Lionesses. That sense of entitlement which is reinforced by others allowing it isn't helpful. Gaining buy in might feel a it of a waste of time if it's always given. 

Whether you need it it not. Whether you have got it or not, before you start, it is always wise to assume that you need to gain buy in. 

Yet the biggest issue in my experience is simply poor judgement. Often times people assume Asymmetric sensitivity is a right of a more powerful position. Absolutely wrong. It isn't and to do so almost always costs you in the end so definitely best avoided!