Asking for Help
David Langiulli
10+ years Coaching 100s of Executives at Harvard, UNICEF, Yale, USO, Princeton, & More | Jiu-Jitsu World Champion Black Belt | 6x Published Author
In the hustle and bustle of our daily lives, there comes a time when everything feels like it's spiraling out of control. ?Your world gets turned upside down. ?What do you do? ?Stand on your head?
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Well, that might work. ?Especially if you practice yoga. ?However, there is another way. ?It's called "asking for help."
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I know; it seems so obvious. ?So simple. ?And yet, why do so many of us fail to do it?
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One reason may be pride. ?It's a powerful emotion. ?It makes us feel capable, independent, and strong. ?Sometimes, though, it can be our biggest obstacle. ?Admitting that we need help can feel like admitting defeat, and nobody likes to lose.
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More often than not, we forget that we have a support system ready and willing to help us. ?We get so caught up in our struggles that we lose sight of the people around us.
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Also, you might think that asking for help is a sign of weakness, but it's actually a sign of strength. ?It shows that you're humble enough to acknowledge that you can't do everything on your own and that you value the expertise and support of others.
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Your family and friends are your first place to look for help. ?They love you unconditionally and are often willing to go the extra mile to help you out. ?Don't be afraid to lean on them when you need to.
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In your professional life, your colleagues and mentors can be invaluable resources. ?They've likely been through similar challenges and can offer guidance and support based on their experiences.
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Sometimes, you need an outside perspective. ?Consultants and coaches can provide expert advice tailored to your specific situation. ?They can help you see things from a different angle and provide actionable steps to overcome your challenges.
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One of the most significant benefits of asking for help is the emotional support you receive. ?Just knowing that someone cares can make a world of difference.
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Also, when you allow others to help you, you strengthen your relationships with them. ?It creates a bond of trust and mutual respect that can last a lifetime.
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When asking for help, be specific about what you need. ?This makes it easier for the person you're asking to provide the appropriate support.
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Be honest about your situation and why you need help. ?Transparency fosters trust and understanding.
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Always express gratitude for the help you receive. ?A simple "thank you" can go a long way in maintaining a positive relationship.
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Life's challenges are inevitable but facing them alone doesn't have to be. ?The next time you find your world turned upside down, remember that you have a network of family, friends, colleagues, mentors, consultants, and coaches who would be honored and delighted to help you.
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Don't be afraid to ask for help. ?It might just be the strongest thing you do.
Author
5 个月As someone who cares for elders and grandchildren in different states--all while tackling huge writing projects--I take whatever help I can get. A chore or favor doesn't have to be done exactly as I would do it, either. It is too easy to feel "tapped out" when we are the ones everyone else relies on. I started small. "Could you please unload the dishwasher while I finish cooking this meal?" It can be difficult to ask for help, at times, but when someone does provide an assist, and I say a heartfelt thank you, it leads to a sweet moment in which the other person feels needed and appreciated.