Asking For Help Before You Need It

As a woman – please excuse me if I am going make some assumptions about you. Stop me if you think I have this wrong.

You are typically looking after everyone in your life. That might be kids, partners, parents, friends, employees, colleagues, the old lady who lives next door, the pets, the neighbours pets, the plants…literally everyone and everything BEFORE you even think about looking after you. Would that be about right?

And when I ask you to think about looking after yourself, and what you do on a daily basis to look after yourself, you might struggle to think of anything beyond cleaning your teeth, eating or possibly going for a walk. But, let’s be honest, you are only walking because the dog needs to go out, or the kids need walking to or from school, or you need to go buy something for tea at the shop….right?

If this all sounds familiar, then you are not alone. Most women never ask for help – beyond opening a jar that’s stuck potentially. We feel like we are supposed to be able to do it all, and that asking for help is a sign of weakness or incompetence. And prioritising yourself, god forbid spending any time or money on your own self development for example – well that’s just selfish and indulgent.

I’d like to introduce you to Doris.

Doris is 89 independent, proud and strong. She is my mother-in-law. And she needs help. We hadn’t really noticed that she needed help (due to her being all proud and strong and independent, you know) until about 6 months ago. Suddenly, a very different Doris seemed to have snuck in, abducted Doris and left this lonely, isolated, easily upset Doris in her place.

She went in to a lovely place for a bit of extra TLC and ended up staying for 15 weeks. And then last week she was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s.

They did some tests. And whilst she can draw a circle representing a clock, the numbers are jumbled and the hands are outside the circle. She talks about her 3 sons – she has 2. Anyone with any experience of this condition will recognise these symptoms.

We have laughed and we have cried – which has actually been very touching considering we didn’t really get on that well when me and Mr C got together. You see, she had been this – Strong, proud, independent woman who coped without her husband since he passed in his 50’s.

So now, she can go home, but she will need care. And this won’t be easy for someone who has never asked for or accepted help in the past.

But asking for help isn’t something that anyone should be worried about. It isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s a sign that you value yourself, and know your limits. And – as we may all find one day – we ARE going to need help at some point.

Allowing support is a habit you can start now.

So, I know you CAN cope on your own – because you have done it up till now, right? But you don’t NEED to do it all alone. You don’t win any brownie points. In fact, if you keep going like that then you might just end up in dire straights and having to ask for help.

We have a solution for that! It’s called the Live Love Laugh Lounge – and it is where the WHYs women hang out. This is a bunch of women at a certain stage – call it mid life – who all need some support. They aren’t broken, they are competent women who CAN cope with most things life throws at them.

But they have come to a crossroads. Something big has or is about to change in their life. Maybe their kids have left home, maybe their partner has left, maybe they have suffered a bereavement or lost their job, or been forced into a career change.

For whatever reason, they have decided they have had enough of being an island, and want to learn more about themselves, about what they are here to do with the second half of their life, and they want the support of like minded women around them to laugh and cry with.

If that sounds like you, take the first step, by getting your free genetic blueprint on?this link. What is a genetic blueprint? Well – it’s a bit like a horoscope but better. It will tell you what your are here to do on earth and why. And when I send it to you – feel free to reply and ask about the Live Love Laugh Lounge and how you can be a part of it.

With love,

Cheryl

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