Ask for the truth…only if you are ready for it

Whatever satisfies the soul is truth.

― Walt Whitman

This week was all about truth. Have you ever noticed that sometimes you have a week that is filled with a particular topic? From Monday to Sunday or maybe even for two weeks in a row all over a sudden every single person and even a neighbour’s cat wants to talk to you about Brexit, or about Trump, or about break up, or about sofas, cars, holidays, etc.

This week was about truth. I had multiple discussions about truth: what is the truth, why some people prefer to speak only the truth, why some people never can say the truth, why some people prefer the truth over lies and v.v., why some people can’t stand the truth, is truth dangerous? Apparently the most difficult question to answer was: how to find your own truth? And the second difficult one is: how to admit it to yourself?

Not telling the truth is the quickest way to turn yourself into a stranger.

- Mark W. Perrett

Very often it is difficult for us to understand our own truth. Very often we don’t clearly see the root causes of our problems or our actions. We are saying that we don’t know why we have or have not done this or that, why we have or have not said this or that. We are blaming our parents for going to the wrong university, we are blaming the management for not having the position we want, we are blaming equipment for not working, we are blaming colleagues for an incident, we are blaming our other half for mishaps in our relationships, we are blaming ourselves for not trying hard enough, for not being smart enough, etc.

Most often the reality is we are just scared to admit the truth or too lazy to think about things and…to admit the truth. It is easy to lie, even to ourselves. It is much more difficult to live your life when you know your own truth, as in this case you can’t hide behind lies.

We are not happy with our job, and we are thinking, blaming, etc. someone or something or even ourselves for not trying hard enough, for not being smart enough or for example, even for being lazy. Let’s see what can be the truth here… 

Maybe we are not so much in love with our job and deep down inside we don’t believe in what we do. Maybe if we could have admitted to ourselves that we want to do something else, could have changed our job, we would have excelled at our new job in an extremely short period of time and we would be happy. For example, you are working for a bank, and you are getting a good pay check every month, you are not satisfied with your life, you are not fully happy, you are irritable at home, you are thinking sometimes how your life might have been if you had done something else, but these pay checks every month…these pay checks keep you there. You don’t like your job, you find it boring, WHY are you scared to admit the truth? 

Because the truth changes things. Once the truth is out, there is no going back, there is no way you can lock it down again. There is no way to run away from it. And we are not talking about the truth that we tell to somebody else, we are talking about the truth that we admit to ourselves. That’s why people are scared to admit the truth, because the truth cause changes. Once you have admitted the truth out loud to yourself, there is no way you can go back to the same existence as before. 

I have had a few conversations about truth in relationships as well and our private life might have the same “rules” regarding the truth:

• Ask for the truth…only if you are ready for it
• Don’t ask for the truth…if you are not ready for it

Simple, isn’t it? Generally, it is so not much used by people in life. Many of us don’t follow those rules and we suffer as a result. For example, why do we start conversations if we are not prepared for the other person’s truth?

Why do we ask question and question after a question with the hope that we will finally hear something we wanted to hear? The other person speaks his or her truth and apparently we are not prepared to hear it, so why did we ask then?

How often in our private life we are trying to ignore the answer we don’t like, we are trying to get the answer we want, we are trying to avoid the other person truth at all costs, because the truth again will change everything?

If you finally admit the truth to yourself or hear it from another person without any attempt to distort it, you will realise that your drugged out illusionary state will disappear and you will have to wake up to the reality. Maybe after that you will realise that you are not fit for each other or v.v., or maybe that you didn’t know the other person, in spite of being together for long enough to think that you do know, maybe your relationship will fall apart, maybe you will realise that you are not as good as you thought of yourselves, maybe you will realise that you are together just because you have a mortgage, kids and a dog…

Truth change things, sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse, but most often we don’t react to the truth in the way we should. Most often we are looking for answers that will satisfy our conscious mind and forgetting that the subconscious mind is far stronger…

Truth helps to unlock your subconscious mind and unlocking your subconscious mind helps you to find the truth. It is a scary and rewarding process that might lead you to major life changes that will lead you to happiness, to a fully satisfying state of being, not just to a comfortable or uncomfortable existence.

Are you brave enough, do you dare to find out your own truth: who you would like to be as a person, as a human, as a professional, as a partner, as a friend? Are you prepared to find out why do you react the way you react to some things and do you really deal with the right issues (problems) from the right angle? What is your truth about your job, friends, family?

Are you ready to take the ride and to make a truthful inventory of your life?

The truth is out there :) 

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