Ask Deb: Dream job turned into nightmare. What do I do?
DEBORAH BROWN-VOLKMAN
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Ask Deb Question: “I am so unhappy. And, disappointed. I am working at my dream job. 8 interviews and I was selected. My family was so proud of me. I was proud of me too. The problem is the people I work are so negative. They gossip behind people’s backs. I can only image what they are saying about me. It was so much work to get this job. I don’t know what to do next. Please help!”
Ask Deb’s Answer.
I am sorry you are going through this. I know how disappointing this can be.
Please know that you are not the only one this has happened to. During the interview process, everything seems fine. Then, you start and the truth comes out. At that point, it’s too late. You are already there.
Here’s my take on your situation:
You can work at the best company in the world, but if you don't like your boss or your co-workers, you will not be happy.
Work is work. What makes work great, or not so great, is the people you work with.
You have a decision to make.
“Can I stick it out?”
If the answer is yes, then focus on the positives. What you love about the job. You really like what you do. This is good news.
If the answer is no, then it’s time to move on. I know this is not something to be taken lightly. And, you can’t be unhappy all the time. This will derail your career and self-confidence.
Keep this in mind:
When looking for your next job, you want be excited about the company, but you want to be more excited about the people you will be working with. Make sure you are with the right people for you.
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How do you do this?
Spend as much time as you can with people before you accept a job offer.
There has been a lot of back-and-forth discussion here on #linkedin about how many interviews is too many.
The upside is more interviews = more chances to get to know people.
Return to office also will help with finding a better fit. It’s easier to pick up and assess someone’s energy when you meet them in person. Things can stay hidden on Zoom.
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4 周Well done, Deb. CareerFitter has been an advocate of Deborah Brown-Volkman for many years. Keep up the good work.
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1 个月What advice would you give someone who feels stuck in a toxic work environment but worries about the risks of leaving their dream job? How can they confidently determine if it's worth sticking it out or moving on to find a better fit?
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1 年I love how you say to focus on what you love about the job. I can imagine how hard that is when you feel deceived. Deborah Brown-Volkman By tuning out the toxicity as much as you can, you could save the job. It all depends on how much time someone is exposed to toxic managers or supervisors. This answer is the best first start.
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1 年We should not let those external factors affect us. I know it is difficult, but if we practice to become our best version of ourselves, we will not let our mental health to get affected by toxic people in the workplace. Awesome share Deborah! ?